I grew up with an NPD mother and an entire family of “non-offenders” (those who support an abuser and prevent resistance or escape) 7 years after going total “no-contact” with all of them recovery is still gradual and hard. I hear so many stories of people in my position who have gone on to date/marry a narcissist and the idea terrifies me. How do I make sure to not do that? Thanks for your thoughts.
From a narcissistic family where there’s a golden child, a black sheep and the brother is a follower. My partner is the black sheep or ex rather, I have a 14 month old child with the man but his mother walked in and tried to take my daughter off me right out of my arms when I had done nothing wrong.
Amongst a lot of other things, making me sign a contract to be her and my partner’s father’s slave as they live on a 100 acre property and do nothing for themselves. I already did absolutely everything anyway. I mean everything, beds, toilets, cars, cooked, massaged their pains if they were and provided for all of them out of my own pocket. 😡 They put on the street 8 hours away from anyone I knew other than them and kept all my belongings so all my household furniture and everything. They then stole $10,000 of my money I had saved in cash at their home never to be seen again. I got parts of my belongings back though after 6 months of war. Since all this has now turned my partner against me and it’s destroying our family although my ex has done a lot to hurt me also. It’s been 8 weeks now and not getting much easier as I have our 14 month old daughter full time now. Also I am staying at his aunt’s on her floor on a mattress and my child in her porta-cot? And I think I may be pregnant again?
I am building up to splitting from my narcissist, however, I am very nervous about what he may say to the kids about me – he already tells them that I am selfish and don’t look after them well enough (not true! 😣).
As a result my son is disrespectful, rude and cold towards me. My son believes everything his father tells him about me. My husband runs me down in front of our son & behind my back making me out as a worthless, hopeless and useless human being.
I just wanted to say that I’m frustrated. Today should be a day of rejoicing. New beginning.
I just can’t bring myself to going to my inlaws for another meal of horrible food and drama. I just want to stay home and celebrate the day with my own children.
My husband and I have been “guilted” to this year after year. For the past 24 years to be exact. How do we gracefully bow out?
We have been told that we will be celebrating my husband’s and my birthday as well. He will be 52 and I will be 51, but not for a week. We both have stated that we do not wish to have dinners nor birthday parties, but they continue. It really cuts into our personal family time that we do not get much of with our two college children.
I do not mean to seem ungrateful, but it is every holiday and every birthday for every family member and I’m just tired of it.
When we try to get out of it, we are pummeled with 20 questions on why!
Do you have any information that I could read on or suggestions of sights that I could go to in how to handle these situations? It’s just control.