Many people who have been the target of abuse find it hard to forgive someone who is not sorry for the hurt that they cause. They feel guilty because they hold on to thoughts of revenge. How did you deal with these feelings?
Narcissists are renowned for provoking a target until they react. When you finally snap, they sit back calm and composed making you look like the crazy one! Have you experienced this behaviour?
A question I am asked often…
Do you think the narcissist knows they are a narcissist?
The cause of NPD is not known but there are many theories which include…
1. Over valuing as a child
2. A learned behaviour
4. Abuse in childhood
The cause is most likely complex with the possibility of more than one factor being at the root of this disorder.
In your experience, have you found that NPD has been passed down from one generation to the next?
If the narcissist in your life said, “I’ve changed. What can I do to put things right?” What would you say?
Someone on the page would like your thoughts on how you restored your self esteem and moved forward after a traumatic breakup with a narcissist and how you react to their ongoing mental and emotional abuse.
I walked away because…
Go back 10 or 20 years…. What advice would you give to your younger self?
Whilst no contact is recommended when dealing with someone with NPD, there are some things that we would just love to let them know. What would you say to the narcissist in your life?
One question we often ask ourselves is,
“Why did I put up with this crap for so long?”
Was it because we thought they would change?
Was it due to trauma bonding?