👄I was chatting with someone the other day and they asked me if my ex partner was on his deathbed and wanted to see me, would I go? Well now, let me see…Meeting with him again would be just about as appealing as an encounter with a rattlesnake.
Do I think he would have reflected on his life and would try to make his peace? No.
Do I think he will have seen the error of his ways? No.
Would there be any sort of apology? No.
Would he show any remorse? No
Would he have changed and mended his ways? No.
I think I would just let him pop off to wherever he’s going without a final visit. I have had my final chat with him and that was a long time ago.
What would you do? Would you go and see them that one last time?
👄The silent treatment and ostracism have been described as ‘mental murder’ and are absolutely devastating to the target. Sadly they are tactics often used by narcissists. Have you been a target and how did you deal with it?
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👄 Did the narcissist in your life fail to return your possessions when the relationship ended? My ex partner held on to a substantial amount of my clothes, shoes etc. Is it theft? It certainly is when they have no intention of returning them. Narcissists are renowned for keeping your belongings. Perhaps they do this so that you will beg for their return. It is a sign of power and control. Did you just let it go?
👄 We know that narcissists are pathological liars. What was the worst lie they ever told you? Before I went out with my ex-partner he told me, “I’m not a bad man, Anne.” I’m not sure if he was trying to convince himself or me but boy, was that a whopper!!
👄 Do you think the narcissist knows they are a narcissist? I have no doubt that they know what they are doing is wrong but simply don’t care. What do you think?
👄 A child of a narcissist parent may grow up with feelings of low self esteem, feelings of never being good enough. How did your narcissistic parent affect how you feel about yourself?
Some will say that they hate their abuser and will never forgive them. Others will say that forgiveness does more for the forgiver than the forgiven. Do you believe it is necessary to forgive in order to move on and put the past where it belongs?
👄 Have you had to deal with people telling you that it is all in your head and that the abuser is really a good and decent person ?
Have you any advice for those who are having difficulty with recovery and moving through the devastation caused by a narcissist?
If the narcissist in your life said they had been to therapy and changed, would you believe them?