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People hurt me all the time

People hurt me all the time

Everyone in my life is a narcissists. I was told because my parents are that, that’s why I attract those people…. I still don’t understand. 😭😭😭

No one can make me understand why I deserve to be hurt. What is wrong with me. People hurt me all the time, but when I retaliate, I’m evil. They throw the mean things I’ve said back in my face, but I never do that to them. Then they remind me enough and I feel so guilty, I self mutilate. Then now I need help, medication, and I pushed them away and this is why people don’t deal with me.

Her stories keep getting worse

Her stories keep getting worse

I know someone that is narcissistic. She is putting blame where she should not. She was found to have lied in court and now taking for the 4th time. Her stories keep getting worst as it goes. Now she’s involving children that love their dad very much. She keeps bashing him online. A court order states she is not to interfere with conversations between his children and she is all the time. She broke her PO last year and talked to him. All was good and she was laughing. She said sorry to him many times during conversation. We are going to court again for same accusation that he was found not guilty of. The courts here have no clue a judge already made his ruling on this as she did not give them papers. She says God made her do things. Hello? You are only responsible for your own actions now face them again. Poor kids, she fills their minds with untrue things. She has admitted to telling them things so she can put kids against him. This is not right. If she loves her children, she will stop. She told the kids that, if he does not stop trying to get 50/50 custody, she will have him charged and jailed. What sane person tells her kids that? What a mess.

My ex belittles our daughter

My ex belittles our daughter

Hi I would like to remain anonymous but wanted to talk about how my ex who is an N 100% has tormented our daughter over her weight. He has belittled her and often when he finds her eating food will go into a rant about how unfit she is. She has a thyroid issue although not on medication as it’s borderline at this stage. She is only 12 and his family also are weight shamers, anyone who is slightly overweight is always made fun of, including their granddaughter!

This week, I got a call from her school saying she had attempted to induce vomiting and today she came home with self harm cuts on her arm.

I am beside myself with grief and worry, I told him how his constant put downs are causing her to become so distressed but he said ‘it’s not the words’ it’s her weight she has a problem with. Completely dismissing that he may be causing her to feel this way.

We are now going to counselling with the school as of tomorrow.

I’m sure my son is a narcissist

I’m sure my son is a narcissist

I’m pretty sure that my son is a narc, he makes our lives a misery with his constant ranting and shouting, calling us retards  and telling us that he doesn’t know how we managed until we had him, that he know everything and that he’s always right, he said he should be running the country and be a dictated. He says we have messed up his life and it will be better when we’re dead. He has never worked as he says he won’t  be part of this society and spends his time watching YouTube videos of professor’s as he thinks he’s on their level and needs someone intelligent to listen to as he has to live with us. My husband wants to throw him out but I can’t  do that as I do love him but hate what he’s doing to us. Plus he says I will never see my grandchildren but the thing is I  Don’t  have any .

What do you tell your children?

What do you tell your children?

Hello, I have a question I’d love advice on from your readers.

For those who have children with their N, how & what did you tell your school-aged children about your divorce?  Typically, experts recommend telling the kids together with your spouse, but the NPD makes it difficult.  I worry about him having angry outbursts or lying to them about my role in all this.  I’d love nothing more than to say, “Daddy has decided he doesn’t love me anymore & wants to move away to another state.  He still loves you & you’ll still get to see him when he can make time for you.”

Is this ok, or will this be so inflammatory as to enrage him?  I had him barred from the house when I filed for divorce & the kids know something is up, but they don’t know what.  It’s been 3 weeks- 1st week he flew back to see them for 9 hours, 2nd week for 4 hours, & this week he isn’t coming back at all (his new supply’s separation became official & he’s helping her move out).  Next week he’s taking her on a tropical vacation to celebrate them.

Will he act right for the next woman he is with?

Will he act right for the next woman he is with?

Although I know it is said everywhere I have looked that Narcissists do not change and they will treat everyone they will ever be with the same, has anyone ever actually witnessed this happen after leaving the Narcissist for good? I’m just feeling very very low and having a hard time letting completely go from the fear that he will act right for the next woman he is with. I know it is highly unlikely but I think hearing confirmations of this from others that have been in the same situation would help me greatly. Thank you so much!

Should I become completely detached?

Should I become completely detached?

Thanks again for all the advice I definitely  practice, one other thing, some of my family and friends have said direct and more frequently indirect hurtful comments I told them the comments weren’t very nice and they got the hump, should I become completely detached towards them even if to save the relationship? Feedback very much appreciated xx☺☺☺

Am I doing the right thing?

Am I doing the right thing?

My stepdaughter’s birth mother cut her off when she was 10 years old after my stepdaughter decided she wanted to come and live with her dad and me. Her birth mother also cut her off from her two sisters who remained living with her. That was 7 years ago and during that time her sister has married and she wasn’t invited, her birth mother moved state and remarried and she never even told her she was leaving town and sadly her birth mother has missed (by choice) so many significant and wonderful milestones in my stepdaughters life who is now approaching 18. In recent months, her birth mother has been in contact via mail and Facebook message saying that she wanted to reconnect but she must never bring up the past and must only look to their future. What advice would people suggest for my stepdaughter?

Thanks for listening. I hope I can find some answers and guidance. This is a simplified version of what life has been like for my stepdaughter, in reality she has suffered years of silent treatment and mental and emotional abuse through neglect. I don’t ever want to stop her from having a relationship with her mother but I won’t be encouraging it either and I need to know if I am doing the right thing