I am recently out of a relationship with a narcissist and it took me 4 years to realise what he really was. I have just met a new man but am terrified he could be the same and don’t know how to find out as for the first 12-18 months my ex was wonderful, the perfect boyfriend before starting to really get controlling and abusive. How do you tell at the beginning someone is a narcissist as I really don’t…
Only just found this website via a friend who posted something on her Facebook wall. I have a few questions about how to spot someone who has a Narcissistic Personality. I’ll tell you my story and hopefully I’ll have an answer. I met M four years ago whilst I was still married to an abusive man who threatened to hit me all the time. After I divorced him I started to date M, we moved in together after a year…
Dear Michael, Thank you for helping others with your personal perspective. The irony is, you are actually helping others in an apparently selfless way – which is, as we all know, contrary to the Narcissist’s way. As you have said in a previous post, the learned behaviour of the narcissist is ingrained from a very early age – from a narcissistic parent or someone else as an authoritative figure. I hope you do not mind me asking you, but as…
Hi there, I have a question for Michael please. He has been diagnosed as a narcissist by professionals, I am wondering if this is due to him being so open and honest about his thoughts and feelings. My ex partner and father of my daughter I believe without doubt to be a narcissist and it seems a possibility now that he may be evaluated. However, he denies anything he has done, he believes I’m mentally ill and have made it…
When a narcissist is devaluing someone do they know how much they are hurting the other person? Do they know what they’re doing? Is it that they don’t care? Answer: Typically they do know but it is about making themselves feel superior. Many times after I would look back and have some regret, but then I know “she deserved it.” We look at things differently and many times we do things that a “normal person” would not. We do not…
I have been in a relationship with a narcissist for 8 years. He tries to control who I talk to, what I wear, how I should have my hair styled and has cut me off from people who I used to be so friendly with. I keep hoping he will see that I can make my own decisions and how he’s not helping by his behaviour but any time I try to talk to him he goes off in a…
I have read that a narcissist is never sorry. Do they ever have regrets about people that they’ve discarded? Even if they won’t admit it to other people do they feel sorry for the way they treated their ex? Do they admit it to themselves? Thank you in anticipation. Answer: Typically we only have regrets over the loss of someone we needed to feed us. Yes we regret the loss, but it is self centered regret. If they do say…