I’m sure my son is a narcissist

I’m sure my son is a narcissist

I’m pretty sure that my son is a narc, he makes our lives a misery with his constant ranting and shouting, calling us retards  and telling us that he doesn’t know how we managed until we had him, that he know everything and that he’s always right, he said he should be running the country and be a dictated. He says we have messed up his life and it will be better when we’re dead. He has never worked as he says he won’t  be part of this society and spends his time watching YouTube videos of professor’s as he thinks he’s on their level and needs someone intelligent to listen to as he has to live with us. My husband wants to throw him out but I can’t  do that as I do love him but hate what he’s doing to us. Plus he says I will never see my grandchildren but the thing is I  Don’t  have any .

5 thoughts on “I’m sure my son is a narcissist

  1. Wow. Your husband is right on point. Your son is a spoiled brat, and madam, you are an enabler. Whether or not he’s a narc is far less important than why YOU are allowing THIS BULLSHIT IN YOUR OWN HOME. I suspect given a CHANCE, he might be a responsible human being but YOU ARE CRIPPLING HIM. I doubt very much this is the response you expect, but as the parent of a 38 year old, I assure you, he has capabilities. I parent from the standpoint “will she be ok if I die tomorrow” and act accordingly. I suggest you consider doing the same. Kudos to your husband. Stand with him.

  2. Get him out! You shouldn’t have to put up with such disrespect under your own roof! Let him fend for himself and find out what life is all about. Love is not about letting someone abuse you!

  3. Oh my dear, you must send him on his way. Yes you love him, but what are you “doing” for him in the long run? Yes, one day you will be gone and then what will he do? Your son has no “problems” in life. He doesn’t have the problem of trying to pay rent – you pay it. He doesn’t have the problem of paying utilities, or for food, or for gas – you pay for it. He doesn’t have the problem of being responsible to show up to work every day – you took away his responsibilities….every one of them. You need to give him some problems to solve, for they are HIS problems after all, not yours. He will be a better human for it, and if he isn’t, it most certainly is NOT your fault. You are continuing to enable his behavior, and he is using and ABUSING you and your husband. Stand up and take your life back. Set VERY clear boundaries and strictly enforce them. You are not obligated to take his abuse.

  4. You son might be a narc, but he is more of a jerk. I know you think you are at fault here, but you aren’t. Listen to you husband and make a united front when you give your son a timeframe to get his own place. I would give him a month. You can even help him find a nice efficiency apartment and pay first and last months rent for him. But he needs to leave your home, before YOUR HUSBAND DOES. Stay strong. Its best for your son in the long run. And for your marriage.

  5. VERY well said Sally! And that’s a great idea – pay first/last month’s rent (if you are able) for him and help him pack.

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