I was with an abusive misogynistic monster for over 20 years since my early teens. I have three sons for him and finally left about five years ago. My sons are 21, 16 and 13 he does little to nothing positive in their lives yet they still adore him while at times seeing him for who he really is. Sad part is they have picked up so many of his ways along the way that at times dealing with them feels like PTSD or like I’m trapped in the horrible relationship I took too long to get out of. It’s to the point where I love them but can’t wait to raise them so I can separate from him and them for good. Any advice?