Discussion Board

Discussion Board

Let’s take a hypothetical situation. You see the narcissist who hurt you deeply struggling in the water. You are in a position to throw them a life belt. Would you?

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  1. The ones in my personal life, I would, with the exception of one former employer. The PeeResident, never.

  2. No. I would stand and watch him drown.

    Not really. If it truly was life or death, I could not allow myself to not prevent a loss of life. The lifebelt would be thrown, pull it to safety, then walk away.

    If however we were talking rhetorically, and i was able to do something to prevent suffering on his part, I would actively not take any action. My back would be turned

  3. The woman he left me for had him arrested in front of my kids , I bailed him out of jail after many collect calls with him begging my forgiveness and not to believe her story.. he pled guilty she had a 10 page PPO on him not only did they get back together one week later with an active ppo and probation.. he used the money for my kids braces bought her a 10000$ ring and they got engaged .. never again

  4. Of course I would help. It’s a human being struggling in the water. Walking away afterwards, yes, for my own sanity. I’m not the one without feelings, the narcissist is.

  5. Never. Remember they are con-artists. Bull-shitters. You don’t believe them. You don’t react any more. Period. They know your weak spot is sympathy is an empathic person.

  6. Never. Remember they are con-artists. Bull-shitters. They know you’re an empathic person, they will try to give you sob stories. Don’t go there. Ever again!

  7. Already happening in real life. My husband has saved his narc moms life twice , one time she has fallen and had laid in the floor in her own waste and couldn’t get to the phone. He wouldn’t quit calling to check on her and after 24 hrs, he busted down the door ( NARC’s like control, so he didn’t have a key, her only child). Since then he has gone through the process of becoming her caregiver and while sitting in the living room with her, she started choking and he did the Heimlich so she could breathe. This same narc has been so vile to him, it would serve her justice if she did die due to her own self pride and arrogance.
    But Gods grace has been extended to all, and it is not our place to withhold emergency treatment. The fact that any of our minds go there is human, and totally understandable.

  8. A narcissist is like a starving child who does not know how to get self- esteem from the knowledge that he is enough as he is. He needs to draw self-worth from other people or material things. Asking him to not seek validation from others is like asking a hungry child not to eat,

  9. We are in that situation now. A narcissist we know is struggling and basically drowning. We’ve chosen to maintain no contact because even though we care and feel sorry for this individual the health of our family is more important. Perhaps our narcissist will have others willing to help. Personally, I don’t want to help again and hear all about how much I don’t help enough or care enough. I’ll keep healthy over here.

  11. I think I would love to see him suffer pained with fear and I wish I could have the strength not to rescue him
    He could then never hurt me again

  12. No. I did that for 10 years. Tried to convince him to get help for his alcoholism, which ruined his health. Tried to get him into therapy because of his anger. Tried to get him to Doctor to treat his mental health issues which are probably bipolar and schizophrenia and maybe (according to psychologist friend that he refused to see) dissociative personality. All I got was contempt, disdain, anger, violence and orders not to meddle in his “health.” If I saw him drowning, I’d think the world and his family would be better off without him. I’d just walk away and let it happen.

  13. I want to say, “not a chance.” The only thing preventing that decision is my Faith. Let the ever after deal with that piece of shit.

  14. Hell no! Not unless it was tethered to a few sacks of concrete. That’s like asking a cancer patient if they realized the chemo was working and only needed one last dose to be cancer free would they take the last dose. Duh. The hell that monster has and does put my children and me through? Good riddance – if I could be so lucky…

  15. Yes I would! I’m not cruel and life matters. Doesn’t matter who it is. We talk about s relationship with a narc and how we got damaged but it takes two to play. Anyways, my love doesn’t depend on what other did or did not to me.

  16. No. I would watch him die just to make sure it happened. Most likely it would just be some sick game he is playing anyways. That way he could go tell everyone what a horrible person I am for not saving him. He would of course forgive me, because he is such an amazing guy. If I did save him though, I am pretty sure I would do it wrong anyways. Or he would end up killing me in the process and be the poor, distraught ex. Cause that’s just how he works. I always lose. So I would just watch and make sure he was really dead

  17. That would really depend on the entirety, the complexity, and the specifics of the situation. In a great many circumstances the answer would sadly have to be NO. But some would require a great deal of prayer. And some of those would result in a yes. I desire to serve others and God. Most of the time letting myself get sucked back in isn’t even good for the narcissist no matter how you look at it or twist it. But I’d try to save his life of I happened into the bizarre circumstance of being there just after he had been in a terrible crash. Our comfort him as he suffered dying or waiting for an ambulance.

  18. Like a rabid dog, they should be put down. All they will do in their existence is spread and inflict their own pain on someone else. Do them and those around them the favor of putting them out of misery…

  19. If put in the position to help the one who destroyed me, I probably would help. But thats me, I have a big, dumb, forgiving, give extra chances heart!!

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