He is going to fight me for everything

He is going to fight me for everything

Now he is going to fight me for everything.  Last week it was, “I don’t care what you do… Take the house and the kids.” Now today it’s, “I just want to let you know that this is going to be ugly and I’m going to fight to sell the house and I’m fighting for total custody.”  I’m done.  I just want to die. I don’t have enough fight left in me anymore.

Where am I going to live?  I don’t have money to fight him in court.  I was going to get this divorce on a free fee because he wasn’t contesting it and I have no money.  The prothonotary was waving the filing fees.  The kids are going to get up rooted and live where?  Different schools… Who is going to watch them during the day?  He is fighting for complete custody no visitation nothing.  Who does that?  Satan?

12 thoughts on “He is going to fight me for everything

  1. I have been where you are, all they want is to see you miserable and unhappy and they will go to any lengths to achieve it, even upsetting their own children. The best thing you can work on is your response in court, don’t get angry or shout at him no matter what he says, I know it’s hard but remain calm and ignore his words and explain your side of events calmly in court. By reacting to the abuse you are giving him what he wants, which is to prove you are unstable. You are stronger than you think you are.

    1. Oh yes you have enough fight in you. My narc filed for divorce in 2009 and after me spending $100k and 2 trials it is still ongoing. Find the best divorce lawyer that has experience in Narcs and she or he will take care of you. Mine made my narc pay for my moving/living cost when he kicked me out. I didn’t have any financial or emotional support from family-I put it all on credit cards and took out of my retirement. They want to see you loose-stand up and fight-it will be a blessing to your children that you don’t roll over and take this abuse.

  2. I’ve been there too and he did take everything including my daughter .
    In Australian “family court” (which the whole show is run by high profile pedophiles) including police and solicitors. We are not allowed to speak a word if you do you’re thrown out. It was pointless and a waste of time and effort. They believed all his lies because he tricked his sister and her boyfriend and her boyfriends sister who is a cop, into lying. Family court is the biggest joke in Australia. That was eight years ago. Three weeks ago, I discovered what a narcissist is and got an answer to what happened to me, so now I’m healing. In time I will save my daughter from the evil. I can see a light at the end of the tunnel now and it’s not suicide anymore!

  3. Hi, im dealing with court right now with my Ex . If you want, go to my website thereishopeinthineend@wordpress.com , I talk about my experience in court on there. The first post about it is called ‘invalidation’ to start this blog’ and the second is called ‘the TV lawyer moment’.
    I have two more court dates coming soon, and I’m sure there will be more. I don’t have a lawyer so I’m doing everything on my own. I will be posting more about the court battle probably during the second week of June.
    My other posts on that site are related to what I went through during my relationship with my Ex, like the gritty details of day to day life with him.
    I hope I’ve helped you!
    And what the other reply says is VERY true- don’t react to any attack by your Ex in court emotionally, that’s what your Ex wants, so he feels justified and can point the finger at you!

  4. Exactly what my ex said and he meant it, I not only had a divorce case but he filed for custody before that so had to go through that first before filing for divorce. It is horrendous but don’t let him scare you he won’t get custody but you will need to get legal advice/representation. Not sure where you’re from but in the UK they give legal aid for domestic violence victims if you have some proof this can be a doctors letter. I was hysterically crying at my neighbours when I got the solicitors letter that he was filing for custody. I thought I couldn’t fight it but you can your kids need you to don’t let him win!

  5. I have been fighting mine for 16 years. Graeful our son was 17. So custody was not an issue. Iwe had lots of equity totaled 4.5 mil and i have bwen to court every 3 months. He is pro se and in prison for arson of our busibess where i should have been sleeping at the night of the fire. Couldnt prove he was trying to kill me. I snuck out. List insurance money. So i had nothing but the clothes on my back and an eduxation i got scares for. Go to housing authority and apply for hud and tell them you will be homeless. They will help you find housing. Get on the internet file for welfare get subsidized child care. Tell him you will give him everything to keep the kids. Judges want to see kids stable. Father will still get visitation and depending how close you live to him shared custody. I would find a place at least 2 hours from him. Gives distance between you and him or he will stalk you. Go to church! And pray to have stren to fight for your life. Trust me it’s worth it. I now own my own home, got a great job no more poverty, and a jeep I love. No man though. Don’t need one. It’s an awesome feeling! God bless you in your new life.

  6. I AM and have been in this position. 7 year veteran of alienation, with a “Felony” under my belt because I didn’t give up for 3 years!

  7. The hardest thing to do is to stay emotionally detached and not give into fear and anger. He will try to make you look emotionally unstable. Social services at be able to help you obtain legal counsel.

  8. Stop giving him fuel, don’t talk to him only text or email so it is in writing
    Remember your texts are evidence too.
    God does not want these children with him, what evidence do you have of the abuse?
    Friends, or any witnesses, emails?
    It is almost summer, you have some time go to a shelter and see if they can help you with legal help
    You are not alone

  9. Whatever it takes you have to do it to get your kids and self away from him.New school,house whatever,just be free from him

  10. whatever it takes you must free yourself and kids from him.everything else is just stuff.be strong!

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