In nature, the spider is almost the craftiest of them all, for it will seek out a path well travelled to lay a trap for its unsuspecting victim. Spinning a web of the finest thread, the spider awaits prey to fly around the corner, so oblivious to the web’s silk which is so fine that it can almost be invisible. As prey hits the web, the spider feels vibrations of movement and rushes out toward its prey, injecting a paralysing venom to halt the new victim’s efforts of escape before slowly wrapping it in a cocoon of silk.
The once easily recognisable creature now looks a far cry from its once proud self. For any nature enthusiast who ever looks closely at a spider’s web, many of the prey are indistinguishable from one another once they’ve been wrapped by the spider, yet they could be vastly different creatures.
The spider in some ways is a good analogy of a narcissist. Unwittingly, the victim comes into contact with the web of a narcissist, which like long tendrils can hamper your attempts to escape. Once the narcissist knows you are stuck in their web, they quickly and proficiently inject you with some of their poison to make you feel there is no way out. And to make matters worse, you become part of that web as the spider wraps you in silk to ensure your captivity.
The problem is however, that a web can only support so much weight, and, like a narcissist, a spider can become greedy and use its web to engulf as many people into their world of deceit that the foundations begin to stretch. The spider tries to keep tabs on everything in the web, but sometimes there is just too much going on that the spider will begin to make errors. Errors such as letting their true nature show; having a web too big that they just can’t control it anymore. But sometimes it just takes the smallest outside influence like a gust of wind to come along and tear down everything the narcissist has tried to create.
The web of deceit slowly stretches and falls apart. Some of the victims have been encased for so long that escape seems almost impossible whilst others have only just touched the web that escape is so close on the horizon. But webs are sticky. Sometimes trying to muster enough strength to break free is near unreachable. Some victims may escape the web only to get stuck on another thread of silk. But for those at the centre of the web, there are many threads to cross and therefore many chances to become stuck.
The point of this analogy is, if you have found yourself caught in that web, it won’t be a downhill ride to freedom, it’ll be an uphill struggle to shake free of your bonds. And even then, there’s every chance you’ll stumble along the way and find yourself stuck in another trap. Never lose faith in your ability to escape, for once that is gone, all that is left is the ever consuming deceit of the narcissist, and if you’re not careful and hasty, the narcissist might shackle you in their cocoon. As each layer of silk is wrapped around you, the light of the world around you and the freedom it represents grows ever more dark until you’re left on your own, in the encompassing black of darkness.
Written by Steven McCrea