I’m wondering, how do you cope with losing friends to the narcissist? I don’t mind losing the friends who my ex knew first, but there are people who used to mean a lot to me, my friendships into which my ex insinuated herself. When things got tough, she turned to some of them and, of course, they’ve taken her side because she’s charming and plays the victim. I know if I tell these people what really happened I’ll sound “crazy,” just like my ex likes to describe me, and I also value being the grown-up in the situation and not trying to bad-mouth my ex.
I know that the truly decent people are able to accept that there are two sides to a story. I’m just so hugely disappointed in the once-close friends who have ghosted me after hearing my ex’s side of things but not mine. How do you make peace with this?
Thank you so much.