She won’t allow him to see his daughter

She won’t allow him to see his daughter

My male friend has a daughter who turns 5 tomorrow. He rarely sees his daughter, she lives 3 streets away. The mother won’t allow him to see his daughter. Then abuses him saying he doesn’t care about his daughter and doesn’t make an effort. Whenever he asks how his daughter is or what she’s been up to, the mother just replies “you answer my questions and I’ll tell you what you want to know.” So he doesn’t ask as much anymore as he is sick of the run around. My friend and the mother of his child have not been together for nearly 5 years. But she goes on and on about them getting back together that the child deserves her parents to be together. But then says if he doesn’t want to get back together she’ll understand. He has said he doesn’t want to be with her and she carries on about “just one more chance,” “just try for a month and see how we go,” or “if you really love your daughter you’ll make me and you work,” or does the whole “she’s not even your kid,” then the next day is really apologetic says she is sorry she only said that because he made her mad. I can understand her saying that once out of anger but not 2-3 times a week for the past 4 years. His daughter’s fish died yesterday and she was really upset about it so he went out today and bought 8 fish today for an early birthday present for her. He went to her house but the mother wouldn’t answer the door. (She was in her bedroom spying out the window) and the child’s grandma was sitting in the lounge room. He got really hurt and messaged the mother saying it was wrong of her and that she was playing games and self centred. Her response was “no you’re the one playing games you made your choice and you don’t want me, so deal with it,” so now is left with all these fish. He also has her Easter present here and he wasn’t allowed to see his daughter at Easter. He has only seen his daughter at Christmas once in 5 years. And that’s the year the mother returned all the Christmas presents from him and his family unopened with a message, “my child doesn’t need your family’s shit presents!” He has never seen his daughter on her birthday, his birthday, father’s day etc. She uses the child as an object of leverage. He is so depressed and I don’t know what to do. It’s not fair on him or his daughter. I have even witnessed the mother telling her daughter that he isn’t even her real dad and he doesn’t love her, then her asking him “why aren’t you my dad and why don’t you love me,” he said I am your dad and I do love you very much.” She started crying and the mother abused him saying, “good bloody on you, look what you did you made her cry, great dad you are!” Who the hell does that? This isn’t normal

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  1. Hmmmm, sorry but I’m wondering why your male friend isn’t taking this to an attorney instead of you doing his emotional work for him on here. Are you codependent and trying to do his work for him? He obviously has a shit situation to deal with, but it’s HIS to deal with, not yours. Beware friend.

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