I was discarded by my ex fiancé (female) in the most abrupt & hurtful way one year ago. I’m a male who is still rather emotionally raw and hurt but trying to move on and this page DOES help massively.
Just last week she sent me a Facebook Messenger chat request trying to connect with me (under a different surname which I think she created a new account since I blocked her.)
I was able to see a snippet of the message without opening it. It simply said ‘Hi, how are you?’ I didn’t respond to the message but I suspect it is hoovering.
Does anyone else think she was hoovering and why do Narcissists do this even when they make it clear they don’t want you in their life anymore?
Is there a limit to how many times they will hoover?