I feel I already know the real answer, but I’m afraid that after years and years of narcissistic abuse from different partners, I’m beginning to believe I’m the one with the problem. I read lists of narcissistic traits that you post and feel like some of them are applicable to me…especially when speaking of abandonment. I am currently trying to put a plan in place to leave my fiancé. I feel that he is extremely narcissistic and controlling. I have told him multiple times that I don’t want to be with him anymore, that I don’t want to be in any relationship, and I’ve given him his ring back. I’ve tried to leave on my own and he stopped me from leaving by taking my keys and blocking the door and threatening to call my daughter’s father (who is also a narcissist) to tell him that I’ve run away with our daughter. I’ve asked him to leave. He may leave for a couple of days, but will come right back. We live in an apartment so I can’t change the locks, nor can I take his name off the lease until it is time to renew. I’ve been secretly trying to devise a plan to leave and get myself and my daughter away from him. But, then I read these lists and begin to feel like I’m narcissistic and selfish because I would be leaving him with no explanation. Ghosting him, I believe it’s termed. Should I feel like this? We are talking about a man who wants constant control over me, what I wear, what I post on Facebook, places I go, etc. He is very self absorbed, so much so that he will drive everywhere so that he can use the seat heat/ac in my car because the one on the passenger seat is broken. And I’m not just assuming this….he told me this. I’m scared to leave because I have no money and no place to go really. I moved here for him, took a huge pay cut, hate my job, and I have no friends or family nearby. He keeps telling me that I have him, like that should just be enough. In my heart, I know what’s best, but my brain tries to trick me and tell me that I’m being narcissistic. Help! Any advice would be appreciated.