I just want him to stop

I just want him to stop

I need help… I was only 17 (I’m 28 now) when I got into a relationship with someone that was only supposed to be 8 years older than me,  His name was supposed to be (name withheld).  Three years after meeting on a social media site, I found the strength to leave him.  But although I left him, he would not let me go, he still tells me how much he loves me, threatening to end his life, so I told him we could still be friends.  When I got into a serious relationship he threatened to kill my partner, threatened to beat me up, so I stopped dating, up until 3 years ago when I fell in love.  Then that’s when I started to get more abuse, he would send me messages praying I got cancer, he sent me death threats, text saying he was going to kill himself and that it would be all my fault; that his brother would kill me.  He would also send racist remarks about my then partner, who helped me to ignore him.

It wasn’t long before I found out his real name.  He was born in 1964 as you can imagine I was distraught. he was my first boyfriend.  Now I still get death threats, harassing my family on social media, I’ve been to the police twice already, all they tell me now is to ignore him.  Now he texts me off his own number pretending to be his brother being angry at me because he’s dead.  He tells me that I’ve done all this, I hurt him and I used him.  I just don’t know what to do anymore, I’m literally at the end of my tether, I’m scared to be in a relationship, I’m afraid that I’ll make the same mistake again… I just want him to stop.

2 thoughts on “I just want him to stop

  1. Change your phone number and be very selective about who you give your new number to. Inactivate any and all email addresses he might have for you. You can always start new email accounts, but do not use any information in the email address that would identify you. If he is following you or shows up at your house, call the police every time. Over time he will stop and move on to somebody else.

  2. Can you file a “cease and desist”? If he is texting death threats, why have you not filed a personal protection order? The police should be helping you with this, not telling you to ignore it! Get some legal advice.
    And block him from anything and everything. He should have NO way to contact you or find you. Any “mutual” friends you have may need to be cut out of your life as well, if they cannot be trusted to protect you. Anyone that stands by and allows it to happen without stopping him is just as guilty of the abuse, in my opinion. Get rid of them, they do not have your best interests at heart. Find a good counselor you can also talk to and get some advice from. Stay strong!

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