I don’t want to be paranoid

I don’t want to be paranoid

I just blocked my husband from all social media accounts after I had just unfollowed beforehand so I could wean my way down. I saw an abusive statement he posted that was meant for me to see since I could still be checking his posts. So I blocked him so he couldn’t see me at all. The next day or maybe it was the same day his sister texts me to see how me and the kids are…coincidence? She has been the most receptive one to understanding what I have faced with my husband but now I am starting to think that was just to keep the line open and he asked her to call me to find out about me? I don’t know it’s been a while since I talked to her so it was weird that she did it some immediately afterward. My gut told me not to respond to her. Also he asked me to move across the country to reconcile and upon uprooting everyone and everything I knocked on the door and was answered with hatred and. A desire for me to leave and increasing cruelty with moments of nice, in one of those moments I got pregnant. The cruelty and anger got worse. So I found a way to leave. It was devastating which of why the weaning. But my question is, in your opinion do you think she was texting out of coincidence? I don’t want to be paranoid but I’m also trying to go no contact so I don’t subject myself to any twisting of words or anything.

8 thoughts on “I don’t want to be paranoid

  1. This has happened to me. I’ve been hoovered, argued, blocked him from everything then surprise, surprise, I get a message on the same day from his sister asking me to stay for the weekend! It’s too much of a coincidence to be innocent contact so I’ve blocked him and his entire family from everything. Go no contact and stay silent whatever the provocation. Be angry and cry by yourself but don’t let him know how bad you are or he’ll play on it to have you back for more abuse.

  2. Not Paranoid, Protective. It was probably not a coincidence and if Sis doesnt know bro is a narcissist txt out of true concern. In any case remain protective. Take the no contact time to remember, to regain trust in yourself. You now know what he is. Take back your confidence. Be Proud and sure.

  3. No
    She did not text out of coincidence
    Always always remember blood is thicker than water
    No matter how good of friends you were. She will always stand with her brother. I know because the exact same thing happened to me!! Cut all ties. She is not your friend.

  4. If your already questioningthe fact that his sister called/ texted you, following his post. Your probably right. I have been thru this also. My ex narc would have his Dad,or mutual friends just call out
    Of the blue to check on me. And he would either be there listening to the conversation or they would pass all information back to him. Because I was not responding to him at all. They try an be sneeky. Lol. If u talk with her just be gaurded with ur words,offer very little info. Hope this helps. Keep your head up! xx

  5. Chances are she will have his back over yours. Do yes, its possible it was not a coincidence. Hope for the best but plan for the worst.
    Keep in mind though that many of us feel less safe once we decide to have no contact or as liitle as possible. Its best yes but it takes some getting use to. In the beginning its normal to over think things and feel a little paranoid even. I think its part of the letting go and healing. Living a peaceful and quiet life shouldn’t be so hard to get use to but it is.

  6. Narcissist have people in place who are also victims of their attacks. They are called “lieutenants “. These people don’t want to fall out of favor and will do anything that is asked of them to avoid the narcissists tirades. You absolutely did the right thing to not respond. Your silence is cutting your husband to the core because he can’t keep tabs or control.

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