He’s game playing

He’s game playing

I’m in no contact for two months after my ex went in a rage and slapped me, in this time I’ve had abuse by texts but I’ve not replied, he’s blocked from everything else.  Not once asked to see his 4 year old daughter or asked how she is.  Just abuse to me.  He’s not texted me for 2 weeks and I know he’s laying low so I’m less angry and then he’s going pounce.  Well he’s started moving in on my 17 year old son.  Using him as bait.  He’s done this for years and then when before I’ve gone back to him he’s then discarded my boy.  Well my son came in last night and said oh he (ex) wants me to take his girl up to his on Sunday.  Am I supposed to just sit back and let her go as if nothing has happened??  My daughter loves her daddy and is constantly asking to see him so I know she will want to.  I’m so angry and want to retaliate but know that’s what he wants so he gets contact from me.  Am I right??? He’s game playing 😣

3 thoughts on “He’s game playing

  1. You are doing the right thing and setting your boundaries keep up the good work and learn more about healthy boundaries in your life and don’t be afraid you are worth more than gold.

  2. He is so playing the game! You know this already and choose not to play. Your daughter does need to see her daddy just don’t participate in his game. You have to separate yourself from his bubble he trys to keep you in. If you keep her from him she will resent you in later life. Be a good example for her and she will see things for what it is on her own later in life.

  3. Take control of his game of using these children for his own ends. This will harm them and cause damage that they will be affected by for years to come. Cut the whole game off at the roots!

    Tell him to stop using your son to take messages to you and tell your son to stop carrying messages to you, that you will talk to him yourself. Tell this man that you will only reply to texts concerning him seeing your daughter and that he is welcome to do so. Make those arrangements on YOUR terms – where, time and place when it suits you and stick to them. Keep all texts as a record that you will probably need when he tries to accuse you of denying him access in the future. You can use his game to your advantage by putting strict boundaries in place which will be evidence of what kind of father he is.
    Wait and see how eager he is to see his little girl. As much as she loves him you need to protect her from being used as she will pick up on this. She needs you to model how to treat a man who would try to abuse and use women. Your son is watching and learning too.
    Kick the mommy bear instinct in and it will show you the strength you already have!

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