How do you fight them in court?

How do you fight them in court?

How do you fight these creatures in the court…I have 3 older girls (different father)… and 3 younger children to my narcissistic ex.  My son is 10 ½ and girls 7 ½, 5 and 4 ½.

My son is the worst abused he is believing and being controlled and manipulated by my ex and is destroying his soul.  He was once a caring sweet boy now an angry violent foul mouthed child that I barely recognize.  He will destroy me in court with his lies.  How do I protect my children?  How do I make the courts see this creature’s evilness and determination to destroy me to my core?

15 thoughts on “How do you fight them in court?

  1. I have no idea, but I will be paying close attention to other people’s replies since I am in the same situation with my 3 year old step son and his narcissistic and manipulative mother. He too is being brainwashed and, honestly, your experience of him actually believing the other parent and going along with it is my worst nightmare. I am so sorry this is happening to you, but you are not alone!

  2. I’m worried about this too. I have a no contact order and there is a harrassment charge against him. I have a lot of evidence and the sheriff and prosecutor on my side but I know that my ex is going to assasinatd my character with lies. Wish my luck. Not looking forward to seeing his evil face.

  3. I’d love to kknow how to fight them in court as well! My fiancé’s ex is one and they have 4 kids together. She speaks foul of me all the time and puts it in her kids heads not to like me eeventthough they always have and when I do actually get to see them their actions always speak different from her words! But he knows she’s rruining their heads badly and the mental abuse is awful! I keep telling him to take it to court but she is good at what she does and lies about everything so I don’tkknow if they would see through her or not!! II’m not allowed aaround the kids cause of her claims and if I do come around she threatens to not send them next time! I need advice big time!! I will be following this to see what others say!

  4. I’m going through what will be the worst Devoirce case my lawyer says he has ever seen in his 25 years of practicing law . For the past 19 years I’ve been married to a textbook Narcissist . Those of you that are in a relationship with a Narissist or just know someone that is , you know more about them than they know about themselves . Need I say more . I’ve seen , hurd and lived it all . At least until she found someone else. I caught her having a affair with a co-worker . While I slept on the couch she lay in our bed texting him until 2:00am for over a month before I found out . After that I called him and went to his work to get them to stop and he gave me his word he would but that didn’t happen .I followed them and caught them on many occasions , the last time they called them police on me . I now have a PPO placed on me by my wife and her boyfriend . At the time she place a ppo on me she also claimed two days earlier I tried to force sex upon her ( NEW HAPPENED ). She also alleged that I violated my ppo five times that I had to go to court for and spend more money to prove my innocence against this toxic person . They are trying to total destroy me and are doing a pretty good job of it . Now I can’t go to my home but I’m told while my children are at school and on my weekends with them he has been there almost all the time . She has been acting out in court and the judge has spoke with her and yelled at her in more than few occasions . She brings her boyfriend to court with her and the both actually got kicked out of court because they didn’t listen to the sheriff when they were told to be quite while in the audience. They judge finally realized that something just wasn’t right and ordered a court ordered psychiatric evaluation of the entire family , the cost $6000 not covered by insurance . I’ve met with him five times alone and once with my children and she has had to do the same . The doctor has also spoke with anyone that over the course of the relationship actually seen , witnessed or hurd anything That would be relevant to your situation . My doctor is putting his report together and will be submitted to the court for their review . These doctor aren’t the same doctors people go to because they hear voices . He is trained to see through their illness. Im hoping this will be the best $6000 I’ve ever spent . Just a thought , if you can afford it you may want to talk to the judge or your lawyer . The truth will come out .

  5. OMGOSH I was hoping this was going to give me good advice on how to win. Everything I’ve been reading tells me very few win against a narcissist. It’s so sad on how such evil can win. I believe in God and he is bigger then any narcissist so I wil keep speaking that to myself and believing it cause it seems only he can help us against this evil that will not prevail in Jesus’ name!!!!

    1. After 21 years of marriage to a narcissist husband, I finally got up the courage to leave. I stayed home our whole marriage to raise and homeschool our 4 children. By the time I left, he was literally making me ill, stress can do that. In court, he got the kids, house and in my state there’s no alimony. I was ordered to leave our home, by the judge. I also was ordered to pay child support to him, remember I’d had no job for 21 years. My children had nothing to do with me for 1 1/2 years, it crushed me. I survived but it was THE most difficult life event that I’ve been through. I wish you the best.

  6. Step parent? More than likely you are being lied to be your partner. Narcissistic people create drama but say they hate it. If your gut tells you something isn’t right then it isn’t right. No matter how much you may think your partner love you If you don’t know they aren’t lies you should tread lightly and let the actual parents work it out.

  7. Just keep fighting and doing the beat you can. I had the same thing happen to me and my kids. My youngest ended up in the psych ward and me giving up almost everything before I won my kids. I now have full custody of them. I had to be willing to give everything to him for my kids. They are the most important thing. We are getting our lives back together. It is hell because we have all been through a war. Don’t give up even when you feel like it. Admit you feel like giving up and then go on fighting. It is OK to want to quit. Just don’t.

  8. I went to court. He took me to court 2 years after leaving me for his “piece”. I’d long got over the betrayal. In a happy relationship. Anyhoo, it boiled down to finances. I went to the maintenence collection service as he’d starting threatening to reduce the money. They upped it A LOT. He found that by having the children more, he’d have to pay me less. He went for joint custody. However, being the narcissist that he is, to add weight to his “case” accusing me of abusing my children is the way he went with it. Horrific. Heartbreaking. Would rather be cheated on a thousand times over than stand in court defending myself against physically abusing my children. Luckily his narcissism was his undoing, didn’t really think it through. My argument was, if I believed the children’s father was abusing them. I wouldn’t be going for joint custody, I would be going for FULL custody. also coupled with the fact I’d been to the csa recently swung in my favour. Remember rightly so. I also didn’t get into mud slinging as he did. As I am better than that. Don’t fear court. They aren’t silly and they have seen it before. Many times. Be true to yourself. That’s my advice. Good luck

  9. Whatever happens- don’t loose contact with your children. Don’t let the desire to expose your abuser cloud the most important goal…. protecting your children! The consequences of long separations are unimaginable!

  10. You have to ask the court for a CFI to investigate you and him equally. It’s the only way

  11. This was the best site I have found. The info at this link was written by a narcissist. I followed it and prevailed in court against my Ivy League, A-rated attorney ex-husband. Key is recognizing what you are dealing with early and planning and gathering your evidence before they know you are on to them. Save every email and text, and don’t put anything in writing you don’t want to used against you in court. Unless you have tangible proof, the narcissist will lie and dispute it.
    http://samvak.tripod.com/narcissistincourt.html

  12. Wow I am going through this with a friend, in her case it was her daughter in late 30’s that is abusing her, she is so controlling it’s scary. Last 4/14/16 The daughter was trying to take her bank card away from her and her cell phone, when the mother started screaming for the neighbor upstairs to help her the daughter slapped her hard across the face. The neighbors came down and called the cops. The woman said she didn’t want to press charges wanted it to just be over and done with. As her daughter was her only way to groceries, meds, and to doctors. She had no friends here or other family. Daughter brought her here from another state under false pretenses. So after cops called nothing done by them. Daughter stopped coming by to help so I and the neighbor helped as best we could. I got her food stamps to store and bank etc. 2 months and daughter was back controlling everything again. Daughter kept trying to take her money so she couldn’t pay her rent, so I took her to bank every month to pull money out before daughter could get her hands on it. In Dec.2016 we find out the cop who showed up pressed charges on 6/6/2016. The mother got a call from magistrates ( 3 days before Christmas) to tell her daughter to call and plea innocent or guilty and pay a fine, so she did. They told her the reason for delay is they didn’t know where daughter lived and couldn’t find her until Dec. The daughter went crazy accusing mother of trying to ruin her life. She stole her mail opened it kept it for a month then returned it. It was an application I got for her to get transportation to doctors appt. without having to ask her daughter to take her. She took her meds, put them in baggies and kept the bottles said so she can prove the mother is crazy in court that she made it all up. She calls the moms bank and checks on what she spends her money on. All she spends it on is normal monthly bills. I know I helped her. Daughter has debit card number and pin and is threatening to charge stuff on computer and take her money again. So I had mother change pin and change banks. When daughter takes her shopping she won’t let her buy what she wants makes her buy tv dinners only. Mother is 58 and just learning how to cook and wanted meats and stuff to make meals. So I took her to store to get meats. Daughter again goes crazy says when she runs out of food it’s her fault. Always always tells mother she is stupid/crazy/ good for nothing and if it wasn’t for daughter, mother would have nothing. Daughter keeps threatening to take her money, took pictures inside of mothers apartment says gonna show judge how crazy she is. Nothing wrong with apt. Mother was so stressed she went to ER they cut her shirt off and she had to wear hospital gown home. Daughter refused to bring mother home from hospital so I did. Daughter works at hospital and found out all info ( isn’t that illegal?) Well anyhow tells mother hospital is gonna press charges against her for not returning gown. Daughter had someone call mother saying they were from animal control and that they were taking her cat away for abuse. Cat is happy and well taken care of. So that tactic didn’t work she threatens to have husband pick lock and take cat away. Or just open door and let cat run away. Daughter wants mother to lie at court and say she never hit her. Mother refuses. Last night daughter wanted mother to sign letter stating she lied about the hitting, so daughter could take to have notarized to take to court with her. Mother refuses now she is using the abandonment, telling her mother she is done with her, that all she is doing is trying to ruin her life. Court hearing is set for March 1st.2017 Daughter did go to magistrate on 12/28 and plead not guilty. Daughter keeps telling her mother not to go, and that she will not take her there. No worries I am driving her there. My question is there anything I can do to help her in court? What if cop doesn’t show up he believed the mother when it happened enough to file charges. What if the neighbors ( the witnesses) don’t show up will this narcissist get away with all this abuse? I am worried that once the daughter finds out she no longer has access to mother’s money she will do something even more vile to her. And if she gets away with hitting her this time it will continue. As far as I have been told by the mother this daughter has been hitting her for a long time and mother never reported her as she had no one else daughter made sure all friends were gone. No other living relatives. etc. The daily drama is starting to get to me. I hate to see someone so abused in so many ways. Just want to help her beat this daughter for once. Is anything I can do? I told mother to show up for court and tell the truth and let the judge decide. Not to lie just state simple facts. Do not get upset because daughter will lie and call her crazy and makeup a lot of stuff to rile her during court. Not to pay attention to any of it. Just answer any questions from judge honestly and stay calm. I do not know what else to do. Sorry so long. I left out a lot of other crap she pulled to make story as short as possible. Anyone have any ideas how to help??????

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