He wants another chance

He wants another chance

He wants another chance for the 20th time…doesn’t admit his fault 100% and is controlling …  I am scared of being alone and I still love him. I don’t know if I am making a mistake if I do give him another chance.

9 thoughts on “He wants another chance

  1. I’ve given mine 20 chances and each time he promises he’s a different man. But he’s a serial cheater and compulsive liar. But he’s so convincing I’ve let him back in repeatedly… now its taken about 4 months to finally realise that my happiness and peace are returning. I was in love with who he pretended to be. I was in love with who i believed he was. Trouble is he wasn’t really that person. I just wanted him to be. Its been incredibly painful road but you don’t realise how happy you can be till you’ve gone no contact fir a long time.

    1. I can completely relate to all you have said. I am still in love with who I thought he was. He was my everything I ever dreamed of. Never felt the way he made me feel. I never knew what love was until him. Only to have it all be a fairy tale turned nightmare. Its been close to a year since I left him. Yet, I am still a shattered mess. No, I do not wish to have him back in my life. My issues are that I don’t know who I am anymore. I barely go out or talk to anyone. Just know that they do know what they do to us. One of his comments stands out in my mind the most. It was when he said he didn’t know if he wanted to ruin my life too. Well, too little too late. I think the damage was done. Just not sure how to become whole again. Yet happy he no longer is in my life. Just wish he would get out of my head. Its killing me…..

    2. Same for me it’s been five months now and I feel great. Gave him too many chances and took me a year and unnecessary pain to accept I loved an idea of him that never existed .now I accept he is a monster that will never change. I deserve far better than what he will ever be and since leaving him I have learned to love myself so much and now following my dreams and have lots of confidence!! Don’t go back just keep moving forward and stop all contact.

  2. These replies are hauntingly true for me in my situation. I’m in love with the man he pretended to be. That man does not exist. I let him back in …. I’m back in the same boat I was in last year. I feel bad for all who are manipulated by these type of people. Stay strong and don’t let him back in. It will never end …. the lies, the cheating, the yoyo play ….. find peace in yourself. I wish I could live my own words. I believe each lie he tells me pushes me closer to leaving and being stronger than I was last year.

  3. If you want to continue to be treated that way, to be buried deeper and deeper, to keep dying by inches, give him that next chance.

    They don’t change, and every time you give them another chance they get stronger and more aggressive in their destruction.

    If you want to live, to find joy, slam that door shut, nuke that bridge and walk away and don’t look back no matter what.

    Sure, it will hurt for awhile; it will be incredibly painful, but one day you’ll realize it doesn’t, and you’ll feel light and strong. Even at its worst, removing an NPD is not nearly as painful as if you keep living under an NPD. It’s like living with cancer. Sooner or later, it eats you.

  4. Narcissist people are like a really scary merry go round, to escape the nightmare you have to jump off. It might be scary to jump, but you’ll never be happy unless you break free.

  5. I am in the same boat. I am in love with who I thought he was. It has been 10 yrs of him leaving me and each time when Im starting to feel somewhat better he always comes back. I have just recently come to the realization of what he is. He has never loved me he just likes to hurt me and of course it is alwzy
    my fault. He lied and cheated so much. I dont want him back but I have never been in so much e
    emotional pain. I miss what I thought we had and were to eacj other.

  6. Run!! Mine filed for divorce, put it on a 60 day hold to “work it out”…lasted 2 weeks. He went back to knit picking everything I said or did, dragging up the past, blaming, lying and being the victim. The divorce is back on. Im done. Count your blessings and get on with your life. God speed.

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