I’m going through a horrible custody battle with my ex narc for our 2 year old daughter.  We attempted mediation to save money and settle things fairly.  He went to his initial appointment and did not like the general questions he was asked (regarding abuse and drug use etc.) so he became irate with me afterwards and said he wouldn’t go back.

Then he offered me a lump of money and promised he would do anger management if we could agree outside of court.  I asked him and offered to pay for a hair follicle drug test which is $185 and tests back 3 months.  Instead he laughed at me and said see you in court.

My lawyer then sent him a letter asking him to agree to give me guardianship (sole) and that I’d be liberal with parenting time as long as he refrains from abusive behaviour and abstains from drug and alcohol.  He ignored it.  The next time I saw him his entire body was shaved bare (so he couldn’t be ordered to take the hair follicle drug test).  He then took my daughter for a couple hours and threatened not to return her.

I’ve been no contact since I went to get her from him and it’s been over a week.  Now it’s been a massive smear campaign saying things I never said and making me look insane for blocking him out.

Do you think the shaving was an admission of guilt that he’s still doing drugs?  He has a history of drug and alcohol abuse.. Cocaine and oxys that I know of in regards to drugs.  It’s been an ongoing battle the last 4 years, just cruel and manipulative and extremely verbally abusive.  Hiding his addiction and when found out promising to change, then laughing at me for believing his lies.

Finding this group has been a God send.  Not that it’s good that other people go through this but knowing I’m not crazy and hearing others stories.. Huge help.