I was in a relationship with a narcissist and when the relationship ended we remained friends, best friends. Slowly but definitely I began to realise that I was a means to an end. He wanted me around when he didn’t have anyone else and spoke of our bond and how it could work out between us. How important I was to him and how he was working on his flaws. When I challenged his change of behaviour as soon as another woman was around he accused me of being obsessive, an over thinker and too sensitive. Then I would be subjected to the silent treatment. Everything is always about him and blamed on a previous addiction problem. We had a period of time where we didn’t speak during which he encouraged others to tarnish my character. Then we made an attempt to patch things up. Now I’m pregnant and he has a new girlfriend a week after being with me. He wants me to terminate the pregnancy but says he’ll be there when it’s born but not before. He’s very manipulative with the language he uses and doesn’t ever give a straight answer to a question. I want some clarity on his intentions. This child is innocent and for the sake of him or her, I want him to be involved i.e. coming to scans etc. I don’t want to be with him or spend unnecessary time with him. I do however want our child to have two parents that care. I’m finding his disregard and hatred towards me difficult to deal with. I don’t know how best to deal with it for the good of the baby. I can’t speak to him without accusations being made and my every word being turned on me. All he cares about is that his new girlfriend stands by him and believes he is the charming, genuine man I once thought he was. Thank you.