I really fear for her mental health

I really fear for her mental health

My best friend has been having a relationship with a narcissist on and off for 6 years. He was married, frequently left his wife for my friend, but always went back for one reason or another. He’s controlling, emotionally abusive to her (and hates me obviously). He’s said and done some terrible things to her over the years but she gives it a few months and then starts it all up again.

I can’t understand it and this time when he throws her away again I really fear for her mental health. She had done so well with zero contact etc. and I am at a loss as to how to make her see sense.

I’m actually worried that she’ll be left alone because I can’t watch her suffer him any more. We’ve been friends for 30 years. Many thanks

2 thoughts on “I really fear for her mental health

  1. I have been involved with a narcissistic boyfriend, who left me after three years for another girl. They do that, not one hint of empathy or regret Of course you are hurt and rejected. What you have to do, seek therapy, get involved in groups,any sport and friends. Keep busy, I had a bit of a flashback today, but relapsed into positive behaviour again. Those men will hate you for looking good, happy and educated. Confide in your friends , there is nothing wrong with you, it is them. You are not a psych experiment. Tell him to fuck off!

  2. Whatever you do, keep on being her friend! Let her know you support her no matter what. It is so very hard to leave an abusive relationship — you’ve seen that first hand with your friend. I had friends who distanced themselves from me b/c I kept going back. They just didn’t get it, and it made me feel so much worse about myself. You can’t make her “see sense.” She’s been brainwashed into thinking she’s trash, and deserves the abuse. Encourage her by building up her postive traits, love her unconditionally. She needs to know that someone loves her and thinks she’s valuable. Don’t give up on her, even if she can never leave.

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