I can’t do this any more

I can’t do this any more

I am married to a 62 year old narc and believe me it is hell.  How do I explain to a doctor or a court what life is like with him.  Even though he still travels a lot he manages to make life hell over distance.  My body is growing week, I hate my existence.  Pain day and night.  The doctor has needles left in my body to release tension.  There is no escaping this wicked man.  How do I explain to anyone when already they think I am crazy?  Not even telling him that I know what he is and I cant stand him and wont play his games and be part of his fantasy world helps.  He continues to start another confirmation as though I never said a word.  I can’t do this anymore!  I need some advice how to handle  him. Tried 3 times in court he always wins.

4 thoughts on “I can’t do this any more”

  1. I’m not fully understanding the situation. However, to clear up a few things in regard to my own experience with three full-blown narcissists; you can’t deal with a narcissist by staying in side of the narcissists bubble. You cannot resolve anything with a narc. Leaving will be impossible as well without more emotional trauma. However, once you go things will get easy once the healing begins. The only way to ‘handle’ him is to leave. He thrives on the supply you give him. Narcs don’t stop pushing until they illicit emotional responses from you. When you say ‘handle’ him, it sounds as though you actually believe that your situation with him may be manageable. Its not! It never was. Think of a two old throwing a tantrum. Their tantrums are completely unreasonable most of the time, and you have no control over them. Narcs are two year olds in fully grown bodies. You need to take your things, walk out and file for a divorce. He will take more than his share. But; so be it. Emotional safety and peace is more important.

  2. There is always a way out. The only person who is going to change what you are living in is yourself.

    Your efforts to ‘handle’ him are what are keeping you stuck and unable to do what is best for yourself. Explaining and telling your story to other people won’t change anything. Neither will telling him anything – he already knows what he is doing. It will take ACTION to stop the way you are living, and you already know what you need to do to take care of yourself and make a better life.

  3. In same boat…BUT.. I FOUND THE STRENGTH TO PACK MY PERSONALS AND WALK MY PATH AWAY.
    You need to take control of YOUR OWN path in life and leave. And once you leave..no contact.. block his phone number..etc. you will find peace once you take this step. You will find strength. . It IS HARD.. we get that.. but hard is what helps us fight for our life. And we get stronger each day. While you stay..YOU ARE FEEDING HIM what he wants……STOP…….

  4. I have found that major life changes happen when you get to the point of “I can’t do this anymore”. It’s a crap place to be but it is the exact point where things start in the direction of getting better. You can’t do this anymore so DON’T. You don’t need a doctor or lawyer or judge – just don’t do it anymore. Grey rock him for a while before leaving or just leave. Either way I think your salvation is ultimately in LEAVING. Good luck and keep reading this sites Posts – they are informative and helpful.

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