What can I do?

What can I do?

I’m starting to realise my step mother is a narc! My dad is a pleaser… and since being with her she has segregated him from his WHOLE family including his children… she took his mobile off him so now there’s only one way to get in contact and she has full control of the phone… he had to delete his FB page.. he has nothing left that is just for him. It’s so sad to see. In the last 10 years I have seen him 3 times. They travel Oz 6-8 months of the year but spend most of that in upper QLD where her kids are.

She apparently doesn’t like having ‘text convos’ hence you never get a reply… but when they visit she spends the WHOLE time texting with her adult kids and laughing and telling you how amazing they and their kids are..

They caught the next plane to meet the grandies the minute each of her kids went into labour… but didn’t meet mine until he was 3… everything is EVERYONE else’s fault! She is NEVER to blame! Not flying over to meet my son became ‘my fault’ apparently I looked at her wrong 20 years ago or some crap… nun of the crap makes sense… dad sits quietly looking very sad… absolutely kills me to see! My brother and sister haven’t spoken to him in about 15 years… I have only been lucky enough to get the three visits because I’m a stubborn wench and I refuse to stop trying! But holy crap it’s draining and depressing! I just want my dad back. I know now that will never happen. I asked dad why he won’t leave her two visits ago and he cried and said he’s too old to start again, that she will take everything he’s worked for and it’s too scary to be left with nothing… so I know I won’t get him back ever… but what do you do? How do you deal with it? I want to see him more! Most of their 6-8months in Oz is spent only about 3 hours drive from me… but I’m not welcome as I’m not one of her kids…

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