A strong man who’s been brought to his knees…

A strong man who’s been brought to his knees…

I am a strong man who’s been brought to my knees by a woman.  It’s hard to explain how evil these people can be.  When I met her I thought I had met the woman of my dreams but she has turned out to be my worst nightmare.  Everything was perfect for about 6 months until things didn’t go her way.  While on holiday she let that mask slip and I saw the monster behind the mask.  Evil wouldn’t even begin to describe her.  Rage and endless silent treatments.  I’ve seen it all. She ignored me for about a month after that holiday.  She didn’t answer the phone, ignored all my texts until she decided to call round one day as if nothing had happened.  I like a fool got sucked back in and the whole thing started all over again.  Things went well for a while and then a few months later more silent treatment.  Never did find out why.  I loved her and kept going back for more.  Fast forward 5 years and I’m finally out.  Never going back but right now I’m not the man I was before.  Don’t want to meet anybody.  Won’t ever trust anyone again.  I gave her my heart and she’s ripped it to pieces.  Someone told me she’s a narcissist and I started reading about it. Hell yea.  It’s her.  No doubt about it.  She’s every trait in the book and then some.  I know now I saw red flags and ignored them. Can anybody tell me how to get over them?  How do you move on?

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  1. Hello. I’m sorry for the pain you’re in. I can identify as I’m in the process of divorcing my narc after a 12 year marriage, 18 year relationship. Our future lies in looking deeply without ourselves to see what’s unhealed in US that attracts narcs. I agree with your use of the word evil. The behaviors of these “people” are indeed evil as they mean to elicit the pain they do. I voluntarily went to a rehab program for four weeks to deal with trauma and codependency. Best investment I ever made – in myself. The only way to get over them is to find out why you were with one my friend. And, like you, although we didn’t separate physically, I kept “going back for more” thinking just this time, he finally wanted to change and treat me with the love and respect I gave to him. They simply cannot give what they don’t feel. Moving on is a gradual thing, one day at a time. Get into a supportive program – codependents anonymous is a wonderful organization to learn about yourself, and you’ll hear many, many stories to match your own. Best of luck. Keep the focus on yourself and learning how to honor your intuition so you don’t ignore the red flags again . . .

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