My ex died suddenly

My ex died suddenly

I will try to keep this on the short version.  Six years ago almost to the month, my ex husband took our baby and went to the store and never came back.  I had contact for first 3 years but not the last 3.  He has had contact with my oldest son they’re fine and the relationship seems ok but all of a sudden he’s scared to death of me and tells people I beat him.  His older brother is just floored that this is being fostered and allowed.  Last Saturday my ex-husband died suddenly.  From everything I’ve read, custody reverts back to me… I can go get my little man!  I know it’s going to be a struggle and for a while very touch and go.  Hours mourning his daddy who had him ultra isolated and backwards but it hurts me that my babies hurt.  My oldest one wants closure for man who called him ‘fat little brat,’ 6’3″ 310lbs… my kid is hurt.  I need guidelines and help.

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  1. Oh my goodness. My ex- husband died suddenly 2 years ago, soon after we got divorced, so I know the mixed emotions involved. In my case he died intestate (without a will) which further complicated matters because he hadn’t remarried. Therefore everything he had went to our son. However because my son was under 18 he needed a responsible adult to act for him in applying for probate. The ex’s family were very angry and behaved disgracefully when they discovered that the said responsible person to act for the child is the child’s surviving parent i.e. me. I hope all goes well getting your child back safely but do seek legal advice straightaway. It can get very dirty – don’t forget that your ex will have told people alsorts about you – which will have been greatly exaggerated or down right lies – but they will believe it all, especially now the “poor man” has passed.

    1. Thank YOU. Its been so hard BECAUSE even my family isnt behind me 100%. Some think I should leave hi in Texas…. My baby was kidnapped he didn’t have a choice n fighting for him thru these 6 hrs has been so difficult his father would b hot then comd then hot then coldit just NEVER made any sense n right now im sick w bilateral pneumonia n i just need to file paperwork.but yes they do beleave it even though theres an 18 yo that can set them all straight w testimonials from friends family n neighbours sad so very sad the destruction in their wake I’m still in shock i think.

  2. Sincerest Condolences To Everybody Involved! Indeed, Yours Is A Very Sad Situation. Be Sure To Get A Support System In Place For Yourself And Your Kids. Therapy, Family, Friends, Maybe A Religious Organization, Etc. Can Provide A Great Deal Of Help In Trying Times.Reach Out To Other Organizations And Your Kids Teachers/ Schoolmasters That May Be Able To Help As Well (Food Pantries, Any Gov’t Organizations That Help Reduce Costs Of Household Necessities (Utilities, Bus Fares, Whatever, Etc.) That May Be Helpful. Have Everybody Keep A Journal To Help With The Grief And Coping. Consider A Pet Or Pet Therapy Organization Such As Therapy Dogs International May Help As Well. ( My Dad Visits A Therapy Cat At His Therapist’s Office When He Gets The Blues. The Cat Is There From 5 am To 7 pm For Clients.) Godspeed.

  3. Thank you all I’ve been in contact w my don n he was so excited to hear from me it literally broke me! He told me he missed his Da n I very honestly daid me TOO baby n I do even though he COULD n did HORRIBLE things I didn’t hate him just whut he did.
    Ive made plans to visit. My oldest is still struggling because now all the sudden it “may not have been a blood clot” so this is just like a living nightmare. My youngest is in therapy my oldest refused. Which worries ME hes 18 but not a mature 18 but hes the size of a very large man so people assume hes “manly n adult” n hes got a soft heart I believe seeing his lil brother will help n god willing saving n dear friend set up a gofundme? To cover travel back n forth between east coast n southern midwest 1500 miles is ALOT but for HIM I do anything to get there! Me I’m not sure I want to be okay for EVERYONE n ive seen some of what my ex left in his wake is pretty destructive. Pray for our lil unit n that we can stitch it BACK together AGAIN thank YOU!

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