My boss is a narcissist

My boss is a narcissist

I grew up with a narcissistic mother.   Went no contact about five years ago.  I have been working at my job about 4 1/2 years.  My boss is a total narc.  She has tried many times to recruit me to be a FM.  Nope… No way… I truly do love my job but the amount of abuse there is out of control.  I sent out some resumes and I had an interview last week.  I got the job.  Now the part that had me worried.  I have seen many people quit and give two weeks notice and either she tortured them during their last two weeks or she walked them out the door immediately.  I would like to put my two weeks notice in writing but uncertain what I should say.  She had no idea I was applying for other jobs and she will be shocked.  Help.  Thank you

6 thoughts on “My boss is a narcissist

  1. Are you an at-will employee? That means no contract or formal agreement. Not sure what country you’re in, but in the US an at-will employee has the right to quit at any time, for any reason, or for no reason, with or without notice. I had to leave a narc boss, and I quit without notice when I reached my breaking point. I gave him no explanation and he never asked for one. I know he was shocked, but I think he didn’t want to hear that he wasn’t perfect. I’ve had to deal with the stories he has told people in retaliation, but they know him and don’t believe his lies. All the memes you see about letting them say what they want because the truth will come out and the people who matter will know it anyway are true. You have to do what’s best for you. Good luck!

  2. Congratulations on your new job and good for you for getting yourself away from that awful person.

    I have been in the same situation and I promised myself that I would never work another notice after enduring a month of rubbish from them. I left the next one straight away after handing in my notice. If necessary I would forfeit pay to be able to leave right away. What can she do? Why make it possible for her to have one last go at you before you leave? The last attempt at control/abuse before you go does not have to happen. It is your life and you have shown her that you are in charge and in control of what you do. March yourself out the door! You have in effect sacked her!

    You also don’t have to tell her about your new job it is none of her business. You can word your resignation in such a way that you say what you want. Keep it short and to the point – you’ve had a better offer. She will know exactly why you are leaving anyway! Leave with your head held high as you walk out that door for the last time and enjoy it!

    Enjoy your new job and freedom!

  3. Thank you very much for the opportunity to work at…….. I have enjoyed getting to know everyone and learning new things. I do though regret to inform you that this is my written 2 week notice. My last day will be …….Thank you…. sign your name …make a copy and do this on pay day so if you do get walked to the door your covered for a bit …. and if she starts being a bad boss after LEAVE immediately. The company is not your responsibility. DO NOT TELL ANYONE WHERE YOUR NEW JOB IS.

  4. It seems like you have answered your own question. Giving notice is suggested but not mandatory. She would never give you a good recommendation any way. Save yourself the grief ant give her a few days notice. That way if she shows you the door with a check in hand, be glad for a couple of days off. If you give her two weeks notice and you are without income for two weeks, your budget will be a mess. Good work relations and ethical treatment (2 week notice) is a two way street.

    1. Hi, I have left my job a few times as I can not handle the lies and abuse. He knows I need to work and every time I leave he asks me back and some how I go back, as I need the money. I feel sick knowing I have to back but what can I do???

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