Is there light at the end of the tunnel?

Is there light at the end of the tunnel?

I’m having a bad day today, I’m 26 have 4 children 9, 7, 4 and 1 and a single mother.  Children don’t see their dad (his choice.)  I’ve  been out of a 10 year emotionally abusive relationship for 4 months now but my life seems no different.  I still have no friends or family around, I’m still suffering with depression and anxiety.  Today my children have decided to turn my house upside down.  One has cut their hair and I’m really finding things hard 😢 anybody else been in a similar situation and is there any light at the end of the tunnel?

5 thoughts on “Is there light at the end of the tunnel?

  1. I am I’m a similar situation as we speak. I don’t know if emotionally it gets better. I left my kids father a week ago after a 14 year Rollercoaster ride. Sometimes I feel so lonley I want to let him back. He doesn’t ask about my kids but he stalks me non-stop. I have some friends but more people that I just talk to at work. I had left him less then a year ago but it beca me too dangerous so I took him back. I won’t go into too many details but stalking, physical harm of my friends, and my car being set on fire were the aftermath of my leaving. I left again because it was worse this time with all the accusations and me always having defend myself and beer on edge. It turned violent this time around and I have 4 boys 13, 12, 9 and 2. I can tell you that your best friends are right there in your house. I utilize my time with my kids to release stress. We have dance parties and act goofy together all of the time. Ik mine are a little older then yours, but when mine were younger I did the same things with them. Play, find someone who will go sit at your house with you and will let you vent or confide it. It can be hard, I know it can, especially when every moment and aspect of your life has been micromanaged. I struggle with knowing in can make my own decisions and there is nothing wrong with my judgment. You are a strong person to have gotten out on your own and it will get better with time, faith, and patience. I wish you all of the luck in the world.

  2. I have been though a lot when I was in my 20’s my relationship wasn’t physically abusive it was mentally abusive I was with some one that cheated on me multiple times while during this time I lost my mom, and her parents in a 18 month period and had two children during this time. I was living with my in-laws that was just as bad as their son.I attempted suicide because if everything going on.
    it may seem like there is no light at the end of the tunnel , there is light it will take a while you will change with every day that pass and become your own person once more. You are going to have good days and bad days, day where the kids drive you crazy. You will get through it you where able to get yourself and you child out of an abusive relationship.
    I don’t know where you live at you should look and see if they have a support group you could go to and there are places that do a parents night out where you can drop the children off for a few hours to get a break.
    Just take one day at a time you while make it.

  3. Be grateful that your ex is not using your children to hurt you. He is not trying to take them away, injure them, or turn them against you. Concentrate on gratitude and your freedom. Have you thought about making friends via a group, such as the PTA, a church or a parenting group. Don’t talk about narcissistic abuse, though, almost nobody wants to hear about it.

  4. I was told No Contact and read all you can about narcissism, this was to recognize what I had been through. Its hard, he haunts me in my dreams and out of the blue during the day, no matter how i have blocked him, deleted him, he still tracks me down and tries to draw me in, only to feed his empty emotionless soul. Spewing his lies of what will change, the empty promises…. I do not listen to them anymore, when he calls from a different number i hang up and block it. That’s why you study what it is so you hang up, realize when you are sympathetic for all the wrong reasons. Sometimes it feels like I walked out yesterday but its been 16 months. It is better, yes it still hurts, I am in therapy but I will not go back to be the blame, shame and worthless feeling person i was becoming living under his rule. I am finding that i am beautiful and worth sso much to my family, friends, God… I will never reenter the pain with anyone of what he did to me. I have boundaries and am proud of them.

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