Is there any hope?

Is there any hope?

Thanks to this site I have discovered that my partner has all these traits sadly I believe it’s bought on by drugs as he used to be an arse but was always sorry and truly meant it…the last 3 years he has been smoking meth and I think this has bought on a nasty side to him…..is this possible?  Anyway I gave him an ultimatum us or the crack? (We have 3 kids 5 and under together) of course he spun out and I’m the problem….go figure! Yesterday he admitted to not feeling right in the head and thinks he should talk to a councilor…..is this a good thing we both want to save our family but we are shit together these days I truly think for his sake to get of the drugs but it’s a decision  only he can do….is there any hope that he can come right if he makes these moves or is it a waste of time…..please hope there is some positive comments lol

4 thoughts on “Is there any hope?

  1. Meth is a demon that most addicts never beat. Even if he gets clean, chances are slim that he’ll remain that way. You really do take life one day at a time. Ten years of being drug & alcohol free can be thrown out of the window in a split second.
    You should really read about the affects meth has on a person’s mental & emotional well being. It can devistate one’s entire grip on reality. So to answer your question, yes. It’s not only possible for the drug to bring out a person’s “nasty” side, it is likely to transform them into a paranoid, violent, controlling, obsessive, cruel, hateful, spiteful person with no remorse. It’s difficult to believe that he’s been using for 3 years & you’re still there with your kids. If you have small children & you don’t use drugs as well, I suggest that you see a therapist on your own. Why would you wait 3 years to give him an ultimatum? If I were you, I’d ask him to complete a drug rehab program before I made anymore decisions regarding the relationship.

  2. He needs to first show you that he is going to see a councilor before you believe him. You must ask him when his appointment is made and then phone the councilor’s office to make sure that he was there. They are very good liars. He needs to book himself into rehab, that’s the only way for him to come clean. I hope this helps. I think that they can change, but they will only change if they want to, no one will be able to make that decision for them.

  3. They do say in NA not to have a relationship for a year after you start recovery. So if I were you, I would wait the year at minimum. Getting clean sucks, I see it everyday. Don’t complicate his sobriety for a relationship that might not be there. He needs to be on his journey to self discovery.

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