I hide how broken I am

I hide how broken I am

Please can someone give me some advice. For years I have been hiding how broken I am & how worthless I feel. It has only come to light recently that my ex is a narcissist. He destroyed me I feel in every way possible. My problem is no one understands… my parents don’t understand why I just can’t get over it, my friends think I’m still in love with him which I’m not. I just can’t seem to get my head around it all. How do I make people understand how I’m feeling? How do I make them see it’s just not that easy to “get over it”….. I feel like I’m constantly being told how to feel, what to say, how to react…. I want to make them see…. I could never explain to my mum that I’m a victim cause she would just tell me to get a grip. Please help xxxx

2 thoughts on “I hide how broken I am

  1. I ToTally understand what you are going through. I’ve been in one myself, the pain they inflict is mental more so than physical, that’s why you are having a hard time getting it out of your head. Speaking from experience get some serious therapy. One that specializes in narcissistic personality disorder. Always remember it’s not you. They are empty messed up vessels. They are the worthless pathetic human beings. Pray and ask god to restore your confidence, talk to yourself daily. Tell yourself you are great and wonderful because you are. Go completely no contact. I live on the same block as my narc ex and I see him everyday hiding behind trees, watching me from different houses. Etc etc. don’t even look at him, ignore all his attempts to contact you. You’ll start to hel but it is a process. And exhausting one too. Big hug you got this

  2. You are not alone! When you tell some of the things the Narc did people look at you and wonder why you feel it’s such a problem or get over it or they have a what’s the big deal attitude. You need to find as many support groups as you can, read everything you can, get to know the in’s and outs of a narc’s mind by reading everything! You can’t possibly explain that to someone that has never experienced it. It’s like trying to explain a broken arm to someone if they have never broken a bone. You can imagine the pain but you can never know the real pain. It’s also easy for those that love us to deny what happened to us because frankly it is incomprehensible! I went through it and still have a hard time believing that there are truly evil sick people in the world and that I once loved him! You need to search for your own comfort and healing, make yourself strong with knowledge, educate yourself to know it wasn’t you. You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone! The more you try to explain yourself to someone, the deeper you will fall into self doubt. You experienced it, there is no doubt!! Take back the control, you can’t make people feel and understand exactly what you went through, but go forward with your head held high!

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