How do I stop missing him?

How do I stop missing him?

I’ve been in a on off relationship with a guy for a year but I’ve just broken it off for the 6th time due to things just not changing…  The mood swings, getting angry at me for nothing, controlling behaviour, extreme jealousy, nasty words and texts when annoyed at something or someone else but takes it out on me, other girls in the background all the time that only seem to pop up with constant comments etc. on Facebook after we break up then disappear again when we are together ( I find this odd), constantly questioning everything I do…  Wants to know where I am all the time etc., and I’m over it all…  I can’t take it anymore and I know this time I’m done but I am finding myself missing him and I don’t understand why because he’s actually leaving me alone like I asked and not messaging me all the time so what’s wrong with me and how do I get over this missing him part because I know if I go back it will be the same and won’t change?

4 thoughts on “How do I stop missing him?

  1. My advice to you is to have absolutely no contact with him! He is most likely backing off because you have always gone back to him as you always have the past 6 times. He is calculating and knows exactly what he is doing. His no contact with you because you asked is not giving you respect, its all a part of him controlling you. He is expecting you to do the same thing you have always done, you need to know that HE WILL go back to the same things he has always done. The face book posting/not posting is very common, to keep you on shaky ground so he can manipulate and keep you wondering and questioning his motives. It is all about control/mind games, he has proven that to you. READ all you can on control and narc characteristics …be strong! It has been 10 months of me not having any contact and my mind is clear and I know that he would have never changed. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

  2. I have just recently cut myself off from my partner who was exactly the same, but he progressed to punching walls and breaking things when he couldn’t get his own way. It is hard at first, but it gets easier. You don’t miss him as such, you miss the good times you had with him when he was in a good mood. However you need to remind yourself that these good times were very few in comparison to the bad times. I have found it easier by surrounding myself with family and seeing friends he had cut me off from while together. At times I miss him but then I remind myself of the worst time when I was with him, how scared and upset I was, and it reminds me of why I am better on my own. Don’t let him work his way back in, he will promise the world because he knows it’s what you want to hear, but I can assure you from personal experience, it never changes, if anything it will only get worse. Stay strong, you’re better without him and one day you will find someone who will treat you exactly how you should be!

  3. Im in the same boat,been with a guy very much the same but also very violent &unstable
    So after 4&half yrs i found out hes also a cheat. Your guy sounds the same way,sorry to say & believe me stay away bcoz it doesnt get easier they get worse & worse & no doubt you would be living in the hell i am at the moment. Go out meet somebody else okay. He is not worth it

  4. Mine says he WILL NOT come back to me due to MY temper. Yet he texts me just to break up with me daily. I’ve since blocked him because the games were to hurtful. It’s like he wanted to punish me for making him leave. I just wonder why he makes it a point to tell me he won’t be with me anymore? Maybe he knows I won’t fall for his crap anymore? Any ideas on this? He’s doing me a favor! I know. It’s iust weird to me. He is already with someone else yet he reaches out to me to make small talk. But nope I will not ever be with you again he says. YOU did this by making me go away and you made it FOREVER!!!!!!

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