He is asking me back

He is asking me back

Hi I am back in touch with my ex who has walked away and given me the silent treatment on so so many occasions…we have been apart for over a year and I went no contact…now he is asking to come back and wants the marriage and commitment and says he knows he’s hurt me and don’t deserve my forgiveness…I struggle daily to believe him and I do think it is what he wants but I cannot get close to him because I cannot ever let him or anyone make me feel that low and bad again (when he’s completely cut me off all those times)…I am trying to be ok but every day my barriers come up and I back off and it makes me feel really confused as my gut instincts are stopping me moving close to him…I need time and lots of it but how can I ask for that…is that fair as he says he can wait as long as it takes as long as we are together..so that’s not giving me time that’s forcing an answer… still, I feel so confused again but I know I’m in a better place as I haven’t let him in…I don’t want to make another mistake either way…I feel better for just writing this.

3 thoughts on “He is asking me back

  1. I would advise you against letting this person back in your life. If he’s is truly a narc, he will know exactly what to tell you and how to treat you in order to get you to come back. Once you’re married, you’ll be stuck.

  2. Hmmmmm. You might like to reread your own post because you’ve answered your heart by listening to your gut:
    “my ex who has walked away and given me the silent treatment on so so many occasions”
    “he knows he’s hurt me and doesn’t deserve my forgiveness”
    “I cannot get close to him . . . make me feel that low and bad again”
    “my gut instincts are stopping me moving close to him”
    “I need time . . . but how can I ask for that”
    “so that’s not giving me time that’s forcing an answer”
    “I know I’m in a better place as I haven’t let him in”.

    ANY contact with these creatures puts our emotions in a spin again. You’re doing well and you KNOW it. His life most likely hasn’t worked out as he planned and he’s falling back on familiarity until he has the strength, WHICH HE WILL SUCK FROM YOU, to go out there “hunting for more source” again. And you know he will because he’s already done it to you time and time again. They cannot “love” in the true sense. You worked hard to get this far and you deserve to keep moving. No contact!

  3. I understand I been there know one can tell you what to do or best or what the future holds , but my experience with a Narc, my husband 25 years nothing more I wanted was everything happily after tried everything herd so many promises to be hurt.n broken. With him when he acts like things change it was only for his benefited out of it. If he is real Narc you know the answer what’s sad your loving hoping and looking at best and i was tbe same still doing it to habe disapointed life full of never know when they will leave , find girlfriend , life is so post be great , all guys like to be babied lol but narc, have no caring loving feelimg its a act and then know what to say to get to us , then next thing silent treatment , yelling , this dont go tnrew way they walk away and dont look and dont care of u need them your cryinb it still hard to believe people can be that way heartless it true ,I told my self this sad oh might get lucky and he loves we, he therapist said if thing get tuff he will leave or if find someone to Baby him more that I can’t me ER depend on my husband I did not want believe it , it was true I stopped he didn’t step he Cleared out house stop paying bills left me big mess. This man 25 years 3 boys life was perfect besides he didn’t care all his way then got mean had me thinking about dieing hitting throwing calling names made me look crazy. The therapist said they are vampires that will suck everyone out of u. And walk away happy making you crazy. , then later dated one now I’m all messed up again n
    Was getting normal on my life now had bf the same he doing silent treatment I’m like oh it different nope I still see it all about them, , there loving sweet men in the world naturally that love women caring like us , don’t settle on a maybe if you already issue , how u think later will be , pray her a paper start writing goods bad paper ,like this bf he alwzys on phone which strange now I know why he getting atten on line then he blocked it off , we’ll I looking at pics of us from past 2 years and notice hosp hands 90 of time with phone at snow driving eating only looking for something I use say to him u can go on 10 min with no phone he get mad hide in bathroom , now he on silent treatment has new women the next day telling me he loved me , flick switch on and off 3 years together he with new women I am no one , he said I can’t leave her and go back to you that wouldn’t be nice to her ok u know her 2 weeks me 3 years and loved me 2 weeks ago now found new supply so forget u. , last night looked at pic of us I miss him love me but I see he like x can not talk to me leave me when needed and jump to a new girl fast. When I looked at your pic I saw him always on phone that are me see omg he the same network ER change I need someone who I can depend on and truthly love me not for hosting benefit I’m not waste time anyone treated like a ghost, best wishes you know what to do. Life so post be beautiful partnership together most narc. Will say anything n do anything for there benefit not thing of us good actor n cry too

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