Am I opening myself up to abuse?

Am I opening myself up to abuse?

So I’m half way through getting divorced, we have kids and I’m fighting for joint custody, and I’ve done really well at no contact, but I got a letter from her solicitor yesterday asking me for contact for the sake of the children, which in normal circumstances I would agree but I feel like I’m opening myself up to abuse or being hoovered, just wondering if you had any thoughts?

3 thoughts on “Am I opening myself up to abuse?

  1. To be fair, No. This is a normal court proceeding which to help her case she is being asked to do this by her solicitor. I would get in touch with her solicitor and state you will start contact and give what days and times suit. If things don’t go to plan you can always put it down to one day a week.

  2. I understand your feelings and concerns since you have gone no contact. In the courts eyes every parent has rights even the bad ones, I havent been lucky enough to totally go no contact with My ex husband, I have gone Gray rock, the best thing you can do is set boundaries, instead of talking to this person, request all communication be done through email and for the emails to be kept about the kids, during exchanges have a friend or family member do the exchanging for you, i understand that sometines that isnt possible, so request that a simple hello and goodbye be said, say all your goodbyes to your kids before the exchanging takes place. most importantly document everything, it helps so much in court.

  3. I was no contact (no verbal contact) even before he kicked me out in 2012. Everything through e-mail & I don’t respond to anything that doesn’t have to do w/ custody. If it is a stupid custody question I don’t respond. I did this long before I knew he was a narc. Saved my sanity and didn’t have to play into his drama. I have been No Contact since 2010-except for answering e-mails that I choose to.

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