How do I reteach myself?

How do I reteach myself?

I lived with my narcissistic husband for six years. I am in the process of a divorce but unfortunately he has done quite a bit of damage to my psyche. Every moment of every day with him, I walked on eggshells, not sure what would set him off or make him attack someone or threaten or yell at me or our kids. I tried to control every situation to make it as smooth as possible so nothing set him off (and as I now understand, that is impossible to do). Anyway, my kids and I are away from him, staying with friends, with protection in place, but I can’t shake the feeling that I have to control every situation to make it ok. I still feel like I must walk on eggshells with everyone (even people who are completely loving and accepting) to ensure nothing goes wrong. It’s an exhausting, stressful feeling and I can’t shake it or stop myself from doing it. How do I stop? I know it’s in my head-a learned behaviour. How do I reteach myself that I don’t have to be on edge 24 hours a day, 7days a week??  Please help. I’m exhausted.

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  1. I am so happy to hear you got yourself and the children away from this highly abusive situation! As far as your other social interactions go, I think that with time you will begin to let your guard down and things will become a lot easier for you. You have been through a lot and much damage and hurt has been done. Just as this didn’t occur overnight, neither will the healing process. But, please be gentle and patient with yourself — it will happen, in time! And you will come out stronger and wiser in the end. Best of luck to you!

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