How do you honour a narcissistic parent?

How do you honour a narcissistic parent?

Curious how you honor a parent, as the Bible says, who is a narcissist?

4 thoughts on “How do you honour a narcissistic parent?

  1. Every relationship is unuique so you really need to follow your own conscience. Not the one they have tried to put in your head but your own inner voice. Using a bible verse as leverage to keep someone in a toxic relationship is spiritual abuse. When dealing with a narc you can not change them you can only make decisions that concern you. That’s not being selfish it’s preserving your health and sanity….not to mention happiness.
    Shannon Thomas of Christian counciling hust recently realeased a book on dealing with recovery from hidden abuse. She has a Facebook page and is very knowledgeable about narcs from a Christian perspective. I come out of a couple generations of such religious narc pastors and have had to walk away. I don’t engage them. I don’t wish them harm. I do not feel condemned. I still believe in God and am a Christian. I’m careful to whom I share info with as many people do not understand the reality of dealing with a mentally ill person. I wish you peace.

  2. My youngest son has told me how bad his childhood was because of me. I believe him now. Growing up I never heard the words I love you, I remember every beating and ugly names I was called. I swore that if I were blessed with children they would know and feel loved everyday of their lives. My baby never grew up because I was too good to him. God help me, I thought I was doing things right

  3. So anxious to hear responses to how this has been done so that the adult child is protected from the narc parent AND the guilt of protecting self from elderly father “i.e. harmless, adorable old man according to outsiders” who was just diagnosed with cancer. Struggling greatly with this exact thing!!

  4. In talking to many people on this subject I have found that there an assumption that honoring an abusive parent and being told to love them are the same thing – it is not.

    Nowhere in the bible are we told or expected to love respect or honor an abusive person no matter who they are but to give honor to whom it is due. On the contrary we are told to separate ourselves from the angry man/person. It is the difference between wheat and tares or knowing someone by their fruit.

    This has been a question I have had to find an answer to in my own life in facing up to all of the abuse and pain that those people caused me to go through and yet keep my heart right.

    The personal answer I have found which gives me peace is to honor them as the vehicles that were used to bring me into this world while not negating what they chose to do to me and put me through or making excuses for them.
    I choose to honor them in this way which frees me from the false forgiveness that is often taught for those who will never hear a sincere apology from their abusers.

    They had a purpose in my life which has now passed and I am free to go forward unhindered by their issues into my own identity and destiny.

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