I’m getting tired of people

I’m getting tired of people

Maybe I’m just getting tired of people but as the years roll by I find myself wanting to spend more and more time on my own.  The world seems to be full of narcissistic hateful people who think of nobody but themselves.  I don’t want to deal with the drama any more.  Does anyone else feel like this?  I don’t want to be hurt any more so I think that tucking myself away is the best option.  I try to be kind and caring but find people who I thought I could trust turn out to be the most untrustworthy.  I used to be the life and soul of the party, not any more.

9 thoughts on “I’m getting tired of people

  1. I’m doing the same. I’m turning into a hermit, and it’s ok. I can depend on me, everyone else is becoming suspect. I really think our society is encouraging narcissistic behavior. God help us all.

  2. You’re not alone! I’ve cut ties with a few toxic people, and I crave time on my own. You see the world through positive eyes, beauty in places you never thought to look, and there’s that empowerment that comes with being a hermit on purpose. Travel is my new love, animals are faithful friends and people are to be kept at a safe distance until I choose to let them in. What the abuser took away is slowly coming back, and even though I will never be that soft and trusting person I used to be – I’m happy with myself again.

    1. Shelly . I totally identify with what you say. I was with a narc for 38 years. I went on a dating site for 7 months but sabotaged every relationship as a sort of test. I am a survivor, have good days and better days and so far content to rather be on my own . A few friends now and then and as for the rest, I will never say never that there won’t come across my path a man that can make me whole. What will be will be. But for now, I am happy

  3. I’m learning to be the kind and caring person TO myself that I’ve always been to everyone else. I think a period of “hermitville” is actually quite healthy after being in an abusive relationship, to regain and repair the parts of yourself that were so violated, and also repair the parts of yourself that were a match for the narcissist to latch onto in the beginning. For me, it was lack of solid boundaries and fear of being alone. He could sniff that out like a bloodhound, because he had the same issues. As I get further and further away from him, I realize there’s no way in hell I’m letting my run-in with that POS destroy the rest of my life. Keep yourself around positive people and strengthen yourself within. As you grow and “uplevel”, the same will be attracted TO you!! Best wishes!!

  4. I felt like this right after leaving a narcissist. It took time to heal. Now I only notice the positive people and desire to fill my life with their love. There are many many awesome kind people out there. You may need to go outside your comfort zone to meet them. ( I found them in the motorcycle world )

  5. I took two years off. No making friends. No friend time with existing friends. I kept myself to myself. Only this summer have I started to reintroduce friend time to myself. The time alone has made it much easier to spot the Narcs and toxic people that before I was naturally drawn to. I have and still am learning to trust myself. If it seems wrong I listen to me. In the past I always doubted my own intuition… Not anymore. I listen to that tiny voice. It’s rarely wrong. Recovering from Narcissistic people is a long and slow journey. Maybe taking a break would help you. It does get lonely. But the way I see it, I’d rather be lonely with myself than lonely with a Narc.
    Best of luck to you.

  6. Yes, I am one of those too. Now that I understand what a narc is…I know more than I thought possible. My kids are my rock and my dog is my favorite and safest being to spend time with. I am a little scared of spending the rest of my life alone but more afraid of spending it with another narc. I now have the time to do the things I want to do and enjoy! I know I’m a cracked pot, but that’s ok. Quiet, beauty and calm are what I crave.

    1. I thought I was the only one shying away from being around people. I removed as many toxic people and I lost a lot of friends and family but gain sanity.

      I have given myself a vow to avoid any new relationships for at least a year. So far, I made my year and extended the time so I can try reflect on myself.

      Time to grow more

  7. I often feel the same as you have all noted. Which makes me question as to whether I have become Narcisistic. 20 years with a diagnosed narcisist and I am still going through traumas even though we are separated over two years.
    I have begun to pull away from friends who continue to support him. I understand they cannot see the truth ( well I didn’t for years so it’s safe to assume they don’t) so I do t judge. But in saying that isn’t pulling away from friends cruel, aren’t we asking them to make choices or choose a side. And if they dont choose the right one we walk away. I am no expert ., I am severely damaged from the Narcs abuse……one small criticism and I am on the defence. One overlly friendly comment and I think I am being groomed. I don’t have the answers but I do know that we have to be careful we dont become the very person who abused us.
    My narc hasn’t seen his children until last weekend for 18 months. New girlfriend and moved into the city. Then we they broke up he began court to have them full time. Said the kids were in danger . Told everyone I wouldn’t let him see the kids. It’s a convincing story to an outsider and one he can tell easily. But the truth he never asked to see them. Truth is he hit me and tortured me and the kids mentally. After councillors reports, 4 years of psychologist reports and the court councillor report he was given 3 nights a fortnight. So he’s back on the scene playing the loving dad, meeting up with parents of the girls friends like he a returned wounded soldier. The sad part is they welcome him. Feel sorry for him. I on the other hand want my friends to turn him out as he turned the girls and I out. Injected a vis joys cycle of self doubt and I balance in our minds. Mind you the girls also opened their arms to him. Makes me sad and angry and betrayed. While we were getting food parcels, struggling to pay rent and bills and them having to go without he was going to Thailand concerts and the footy etc.
    Conclusion they have no conscious and you will never win against them.

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