You were born a loser and will die a loser

You were born a loser and will die a loser

My Narc is my Mama, I am 46 years old, been disabled since I was 17…I hear the words, “You were born a loser and will die a loser,” (from my mom) over and over.  She has tortured and tormented my soul and she relishes in my physical and emotional pain.  How can one be so black hearted cruel?

4 thoughts on “You were born a loser and will die a loser

  1. I would like to say how sorry I am you have suffered this abuse at the hands of one who should love and support you unconditionally. I know it is easy to say..but please don’t believe this. My mother is also a narc and tormented me my whole life until I could take no more. I do understand what you are saying. I may not be able to understand the pain your disability may cause. But I truly understand the wickedness of such a mother. I am now 45 and it has taken me the best part of my lifetime to recognise that my mother was the crazy one. My healing will last the rest of my lifetime but I have come out into the light. I just want to offer you some of my strength in your journey. Don’t give up on the wonderful person you are, no matter what your mother may say. My mother always said these words to me and still does…but she is wrong. So is your mother. Love, light and peace to you…

  2. I am so sorry you have suffered this abuse at the hands of one who should love you unconditionally. I do not pretend to know the pain of your disability but I truly understand such torment at the hands of a mother. I am 45 years old and I suffered the torment and the agony for most of my life until I could take no more. It took me a very long time to understand that my mother was the crazy one. I am now out into the light and free of this shadow. I believe my healing will last the rest of my lifetime. Please do not give up on the wonderful person you are. My mother also told me such things..and still does. She is wrong and so is your mother. I have had a great deal of therapy through the last few years. It has been empowering for me to tell my truth to another after so many years of silence and have them believe and understand me. My own voice has given me power and release from the shadow of my mother. I am now out of the darkness and into the light. I wish you love, light and happiness. Keep believing…you are worth it my dear.

  3. Dear Girl….You have my <3 PLEASE know those angry declarations were not really aimed at you BUT at herself. NARCs have no compassion for anything that gets in THIER way of life! My Mom also said all those to me as well…My "favorite" was "why were you ever born" and "what did i do to deserve you?" Your mom has no empathy or compassion…in a way it's not her fault. Therapy will help you break out and away from the hold she has on you! You are worth it all! God sent you for a reason and He loves you! I pray that you find yourself!

  4. My mother destroyed me through projection, telling me always that ‘I would be very beautiful one day, but push everyone in my life away from me.’ I have never moved away from that comment. Said to me at the young age of fourteen. Made me feel like an evil peice of crap. I was also told numerous times that I am like her evil alcoholic mother who tortured her as a child. I left my entire family at the age of 32, and have never looked back. I have been grieving the pain of projection for four years. They take your confidence, and your self away from you, making believe you truely are evil. Don’t believe her. Get the hell out now.

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