I wonder if they affected him

I wonder if they affected him

I have 3 narcissistic  people in my life, and I  am sure out of that 3 my son is.  I can’t ask him normal things without him telling me I  am a control  freak  and abusing  me.  I asked him to take an inappropriate poster off his bedroom wall and he went off and said I  am a control freak.  If I ask him to clean his room or help me he abuses me.  Sometimes I am frightened to ask him things as he goes off.  He is 22.  My mother and my ex are the other ones and I wonder if they affected him.  Even at 2 my father would say to me I had to get my son away from my mother or she will ruin him.  I am 42 this year and I  realise how much damage my mother has done.  She targets my daughter as well but not my son or sister.  I need to let go of them.

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  1. A 22 year old young man is an adult and he is behaving like a sulky teenager. He knows exactly what he is doing.

    He is living in your home and HE is the control freak. It is YOUR decision whether or not to allow this to continue. You are in control of what happens in your home, who comes into it, what is brought into it and displayed, and how you are treated by those who are in it, there is no unhealthy control in expecting people to respect what behavior is and is not acceptable to you. Well done for taking a stand on the poster!

    Making excuses for him because you think he may be influenced by other people in your family will prolong the abuse, and cloud your vision of what is normal.

    Let him have his recycled toddler tamtrums…..and treat him accordingly! He’ll soon learn.

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