When The Narcissist Is Left Alone

When The Narcissist Is Left Alone

I have a strong belief that people who treat others poorly and have no empathy or compassion for others, will be shown no compassion in later life when their looks are gone and all that is left is an empty shell.  We are always told to look on the inside, look at how someone treats others, look at their heart and look at their soul.  What’s on the outside doesn’t really matter.  It’s the inside that counts.  What’s on the inside of a narcissist?  Nothing, zero, zilch.  They have spent their entire lives abusing others, knowing what they do and without a second thought for the pain that they inflict on others time and time again.

Find yourself aloneThe narcissist is an immature, angry, volatile and controlling individual.  They spend their lives attempting to form relationships.  Sadly, it’s not a partnership they are seeking but a dictatorship where they have all the power and control.  Eventually people get sick and tired of their behaviour and abandon them.  A string of failed relationships adds to their already fragile self ego.   By bringing about their own abandonment as a result of their abusive and despicable behaviour, they inflict upon themselves, a deep narcissistic injury.  Somehow the narcissist will delude themselves into believing that their own self destruction is someone else’s fault.

Much like a drug addict without their supply, the narcissist can’t cope when supplies become scarce and run out.  They become chronically depressed and  angry and find no pleasure in anything.  Things that they used to enjoy, no longer hold their interest.  Their world has become hostile, their social life, non-existent.  No one wants to be in their company for any length of time.  They often become a hermit, closed off from the outside world blaming everyone else for the situation that they find themselves in.   The longer the lack of supply continues, the worse their insecurities and paranoia become.

The narcissist clings desperately to nothing.  They may create fake profiles on social media in order to stalk people, people that they may never meet or talk to.  Surfing the Internet may give them the opportunity to get a little attention from someone, from  anyone.  They’ve lost faith in themselves.  They don’t like themselves and nobody else likes them either so they think, ‘What’s the point in being nice?’

Life gives back to them exactly what they deserve, loneliness and isolation.  Those who once cared are long gone.  The one thing that they never could control is time.  As they move forward to eternity they have the knowledge that there is a final Judge and this time, it’s not them.

Written by Anne McCrea

35 thoughts on “When The Narcissist Is Left Alone

  1. Sounds like a Karma Fantasy to me, or an excuse for not bothering with those who find themselves alone on the basis that “they probably deserve it so it’s OK for me to point the finger, judge them and not bother to see if they need help”.

    1. That’s not how it is. Narcs find themselves alone because anyone who comes into their lives, gets tired of putting up with them sooner or later.
      No one deserves to be alone. But being close to a narcissist is damaging and useless.

      This article is obviously not about (nice) people that end up alone because their families are too busy to make time for them.
      It is about lonely narcissists in particular.

      1. it is interesting tho. as i h”ave been accused by some as being “narcissist” tho what i have finally begun to learn is that those who accuse me of such, are in fact themselves narc’s and they choose the most gentle, empathic people, to attack. what is most difficult i am finding, is being one of the only sober members of a family. that has laid me out to be the black sheep being told i am the one who has caused all the problems.
        i have in fact created problems and i do believe i must solve them on my own, but that has taken me years to figure out.

        in the meantime, i realize that even tho i love many people who are in fact totally self -interested, i must “detach with love”

      1. Never learnt dicipline from childhood or to much in a sadistic manner forms a narrcist I believe .its not a fact .but we have all different personalitys .you can be easily become one when you have not found that love inside you and believe in your soul which I real love .sadly some people called humans never will experience this great power love

    2. You cannot help a narcissist….I lived with one and even after divorce he desperately tried to control and destroyed my family….even his own daughter..driving her to numerous (Thank God) unsuccessful suicide attempts. His own pain cripples him from the love and help that we all offer(ed) him…He can only see himself as a victim and until he is ready to make a change, all we can do is pray for him….and distance ourselves from continued pain.

  2. Ah this was refreshing to read! Thank you. I hope with all my heart my abuser ends up sad and alone…the way he’s made me feel time and time again.

    1. After 34 years of it ,i finally left,Why i stayed i will never really know.But from when i made my mind up,and the day i left,my stress levels got better every day.

  3. Can’t wait to see this happen to my abuser, that’s what his son told him would happen to him, so it can’t come soon enough.

    1. I can t wait for my sibling to get the karma she deserves. No need to seek revenge. They will get what they fear most. Abandonment. I was angry for along time. Now I just live my life. Truly the best revenge.

      1. My sister is a narc. Just recently realized this. Its not so common to hear of others struggling with a sibling. Thought it was just sibling rivalry. She loves to hate me and hates to love me. She’s put me through hell. She’s now pulling others into her web, but after witnessing details of what I’ve gone through for years, everyone’s on to her now. Lucky for her daughter who appears to be her next victim! She’s losing all who love her and try to help her, and it always goes back to being my fault saying i’ve brain washed everybody who knows her! She will be alone soon. Not what I want for her though! It’s heart breaking!

  4. my fiancé N of 4 years left me for a friend of mine and married her within weeks of throwing me out. I had no where to live and I sold my car because in the beginning he bought my a new one and I wasn’t allowed to take it..sold all my jewelry when we had money troubles and also gave up me job to help take care of his special needs child…I was left homeless, car less and penny less..He married her in our home 6 weeks after I moved out….posting on social media the whole time..ughhhhhh It was a nightmare..no remorse at all.. The’re relationship only lasted 3 mths and she divorced him….hehehehehehehe…..I hope he ends up alone, abandoned..just like he did to me..

    1. do not worry he will get what he deserves and serves him right. I am so sorry that you have been through what you have been through. Here are tips on how to create your own happiness first, improve on yourself. Secondly, take up various projects get a good paying job and a car. lastly find somebody who loves you and go full on with no contact and if he does come back to being your stalker file a restraining order and get a protection order against him.

  5. They are masters of blaming everyone else for everything they didn’t care enough about regardless of the disappointment others will feel . Undermined partners spin into joyless shadows that cannot make plans or decisions..like hollow spirits who have been picked apart until the best parts have been consumed ……expressed like reference points to simulate a complete usable personality with heart and soul…it’s like being eaten alive.. somehow convinced that without this unholy hold you will sink into even darker nothingness invisible to everyone..
    It’s hell..there is absolutely no respect for the truth…it was all a two dementional imitation of a meaningful bond..

  6. In regard to my ex, I often think, “After years of engaging in scorched-earth vindictiveness, how can you honestly be surprised when you find yourself in a field where nothing will grow?”

  7. I’m a horrible person because I truly wish only the worst possible things for the ex. He killed my dog. I hope he suffers a very long painful end, alone & chokes on his own vomit.

  8. Narcissism is “horrible” as is the narcissists behavior to those who love them. I know I must forgive my eldest for what she did and continues to do to my deceased husbands’ name and to mine still. Her propensity to lie is a talent I’ve never before heard of. I’ve had to leave the province as I live in fear of her.

    1. Honestly, it’s to be determined. Some learn some never do. if money is in there hands they wont. And they do loose thier soul & life. I will never know if he learned a life of love was trashed. But I wish him well and peace…
      Even if he hurt me ( Marlon Vasquez ) aka narc:(

  9. As the grown only child of two diagnosed narcs, I can say that this is all true. The older they get, the more anxious they get as they lose friends, status, etc. Retirement isolated my parents, making them depressed, angry and even more controlling. Being around them was toxic as they desperately tried to make me their servant, scapegoat and verbal punching bag. They are very old now, and mean behind closed doors. I stopped contact because they were getting aggressive and dangerous. They can’t be fixed and no amount of help is appreciated. They always want more, more, more..when in truth they can do it all themselves. Just say no to narcs. You can never have the healthy relationship that you deserve with them.

  10. I hope this will happen to my ex. He deserve to be alone and feeling lost. He have fuck thousands of women and betrayed them and of course including me. I can’t and won’t do any to him, except I have to keep stay away from him. God Bless we all figure out this man is not good for us. I had close this chapter and start chasing my own dream and happiness. He is still staying in his dark cave. Keep using women to feed up his emptiness. What a sad person.

  11. It is a valid medical condition, caused through no fault of their own, and perhaps not even known to them. The post and subsequent comments seem inappropriate, unnecessary, and spiteful.

  12. Hi This is so amazing , I have known for years something is off with a relative living with me and you have caught it . I still live nearby but she now has no control over me

  13. No matter what karma they get it does not change the damage they do to you. I have scars on my body and scars on my mind. Lost years that I will never get back.

  14. I find it very sad that this damn Narcissistic Disorder can make so many people, so very angry about people we used to love. I have only recently learnt about this disorder and that my mother has it. She has been mean, angry and self centered for all I can remember even though she has enjoyed a tremendous life. She has recently disowned my sister, so once again I am the “Good” child; she has created horrible relationships with my step-sisters and my lovely step-father is in a horrible state with no-mobility in ‘full-care’ in a Home.

    She is now in this lonely, bitter and sad stage described above.

    I try desperately to keep my emotions in check regarding her these days but I now mostly feel sorry for her. Relatively speaking. Currently I think I’m the only one feeling sorry for her. I guess Karma truly is a “bitch”.

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