When a narcissist is devaluing someone do they know how much they are hurting the other person? Do they know what they’re doing? Is it that they don’t care?
Typically they do know but it is about making themselves feel superior. Many times after I would look back and have some regret, but then I know “she deserved it.”
We look at things differently and many times we do things that a “normal person” would not. We do not look at life through the same glasses you do, ours are misshaped and warped, BUT, we look at it as normal and natural.